When you’re less stressed, you can see more clearly. It’s like the difference between having 20/200 vision or 20/20 vision. When you see more clearly, you focus better, you’re more competent, and you feel better about things in general. The … Continue reading
People who don’t like to be questioned are at war with facts. They assume that, “I’m bigger and better than reality.” But this is a contradiction. You cannot be bigger or better than something — reality — if you’re a … Continue reading
Q: What would your reaction to following statement be? “You take politics too seriously. You get too upset over things you can’t control, things happening in other parts of the world. Don’t worry about that stuff, go out and live, … Continue reading
Assume that any person you encounter is of potential value to you. If they prove otherwise, then fine; but start with the assumption that they have something to offer you, by being who they are. Let them prove you wrong. … Continue reading
Being “rational” does not mean the absence of feelings. It means knowing what the reasons for your feelings are — and accepting feelings only when there are facts to back them up.
Obsessive anxiety comes from worrying about your anxiety. If you stop trying to fight the anxiety, it will eventually go away. Big caveat here: It won’t go away immediately. So when you tell yourself, ‘Stop fighting it, don’t worry, the … Continue reading
Diagnostic labels such as “depression” and “narcissistic personality disorder” and all the rest are of limited value. In some cases, they actually do harm because they imply no personal responsibility on the part of the person with the problem for … Continue reading
Your soul is your consciousness — i.e., your mind. “Soul” consists of what you think, feel, perceive, hope for, feel angry about, or appraise in any cognitive, mental way. Your thoughts are the most fundamental part of your soul; all … Continue reading
Perspective comes from hope and confidence. We all know hope is valuable, but confidence is very important, too. Confidence allows us to assume that we are able to solve and resolve problems—even when in the moment we cannot solve them … Continue reading
People create myths about themselves. The myth blocks out the need to be aware. Self-deception is the greatest deception of all. Without it, no deception of others is possible.
For a relationship between two people to be happy, it stands to reason that each individual must be able and willing to be happy. Severe and prolonged stress can undercut happiness, but it shouldn’t really be the end of it. … Continue reading
Do you write down at the end of each day what you’re proud of, what you did well, and any evidence of a little bit more improvement? Also, do you write down your plan for the next day to, even … Continue reading