“When you have a choice between laughter and wounding, ferocious pain, laughter will always win. If is when laughter is not an option that pain will kill you.” — Anne Rivers Siddons Follow Dr. Hurd on Facebook. Search under … Continue reading
Category: Psychology & Self-Improvement
Why Some “Nice” People are Toxic
Here’s a type of person who’s usually toxic, but you will never know why: the kind of person who says yes to everyone, never considering his own needs or rights, and expects you to do the same.If his subconscious were … Continue reading
“Gaslighting” is Not an Official Psychiatric Term
Everyone talks these days about “gaslighting.” They want to know the formal psychological definition. It’s not a formal psychological term, so there isn’t one. (I am a mental health professional of 36 years, so I know.) So far as I … Continue reading
Just Because YOU Would Do It Doesn’t Mean Everyone Else Will
“Stop expecting YOU from other people,” says the meme. So true! Just because you believe YOU would do something, doesn’t mean someone else WILL do something. Maybe they should do what you do; maybe they shouldn’t. That point may be … Continue reading
Thoughts and Ideas Affect Everything
“LAW OF ATTRACTION. Your mind is a magnet. If you think of blessings, you attract blessings, and if you think of problems you attract problems. Always cultivate good thoughts and remain positive.” [author unknown] My version of this: The good … Continue reading
The Weight of Other People’s Opinions
“The only thing you should stop wearing after age 50 is the weight of other people’s opinions.” (Unknown) Good advice whether you’re 70, 50 or 20. Most other people are at least as lost as you may feel you are. … Continue reading
If You Value Your Life, You Won’t Be an Idiot
“Most of the trouble in the world is caused by people wanting to be important.” True! But maybe not for the reasons you think. If you’re healthy and decent, you view your life as important. Your LIFE is important — … Continue reading
Aging is a Gift
DAME JUDI DENCH: “One day, a young woman asked me: ‘What do you think about being old?’ “I thought aging was a gift. “I wouldn’t change anything I have for a few less wrinkles and a flat stomach. “Who cares … Continue reading
Rats in a Maze … and Not Even Knowing It!
“A rat in a maze is free to go anywhere, as long as it stays inside the maze.” — Margaret Atwood Follow Dr. Hurd on Facebook. Search under “Michael Hurd” (Charleston SC). Get up-to-the-minute postings, recommended articles and … Continue reading
“Happy Wife, Happy Life” is a BIG Mistake
The meme is true. “Happy wife, happy life” is a recipe for self-sacrifice. “I have to give up myself in order to love someone else.” Wrong. First of all, anyone who really loves you would NOT want you to sacrifice. … Continue reading
The More You Love, the More You Hate
The more you love something, the more you loathe its opposite. Hatred is rational, when in the context of posing a threat against something or someone you love. While it’s true that love matters far, far more than its opposite, … Continue reading
Faulty Thinking Got Us Into This Mess
“I have found that if you love life, life will love you back.” (Arthur Rubinstein) So true. One of the worst mistakes people make is to approach life passively. “Life hasn’t shown me much. So what’s the point of taking … Continue reading