Hi Dr. Hurd, I was visiting my chiropractor yesterday. Not sure how we got around to the topic, but I posed the question if she had millions of dollars, would she still work and be a chiropractor. Her answer was … Continue reading
Love is not sacrifice. When you love someone, you want them to be happy; not miserable. When you love someone, you want them to do something for you because they want to, not because it’s a sacrifice. You want their … Continue reading
A reader writes: My husband and I have been together for 17 years. I gained some weight over the last few years and our physical relationship became almost nonexistent. We are still very close; we cuddle and say nice things, … Continue reading
A reader writes: What does it say about a person who is prone to offering others unsolicited advice without a polite prompting of the shift of conversation? And why would the object of that unsolicited advice be understandably offended when … Continue reading
Dear Dr. Hurd, I need advice on what to say to my husband of more than 10 years. He is in a complete snit because he’s starting to lose his hair. I couldn’t care less, and frankly I think he … Continue reading
Some people lie in order to gain something for nothing. The “gain” consists of money, property or respect from others. However, most people who lie don’t do so for this reason. Most people who lie do so out of fear. … Continue reading
A reader asks, “What happens if a client you see for therapy doesn’t agree with you on politics?” Psychotherapy isn’t about politics. So there’s no need to ever discuss it, not in therapy. However, politics is a branch of philosophy. … Continue reading
Dear Dr. Hurd, Everything seemed perfect when we first met 8 months ago. Now, my girlfriend is starting to get bossy and controlling. She interrupts me, finishes my sentences, and always seems to have a better way of doing everything. … Continue reading
A lot of times, people are looking for a “quick fix” to their problems, particularly emotional/behavioral or relationship problems. The common response is, “You can’t always have a quick fix. Life is a process, and problem-solving can take time.” This … Continue reading
Dear Dr. Hurd: First of all I greatly enjoy reading your columns since what you write is like my unexpressed thoughts put into words! With that out of the way… My boyfriend of two years has just moved in with … Continue reading
A reader writes with the following quote: “Have you ever considered that your biggest problem is that you haven’t failed ENOUGH?” (Matt Hussey) He writes: I like what this implies. Not enough risk taking toward value obtainment and missing your … Continue reading
Question from a reader: If you sense something is bothering your partner or friend, whose responsibility is it to initiate dialogue? The person who is upset or the person who is sensing something? The person who is bothered is responsible, … Continue reading