Marry only when the other person seems lovely to you. Marry when you love, not when you would sacrifice for him, or wish to possess him. When those twin evils, self-denial and possessiveness, enter a human relation, hell comes with … Continue reading
Dear Dr. Hurd: Thank you for writing the piece on handling people who want to validate their irrational emotions. You answered it from your perspective as a therapist. What I also would like to know is what I could do … Continue reading
A reader sent in the following quote found somewhere on Facebook: “Funny thing is that social psychology research says that the more you think things through, the less logical your action — gives you too much time to rationalize.” It’s … Continue reading
Dr. Hurd: How do you (as a psychotherapist/life coach) deal with someone one who wants you to validate their irrational emotions and accuses you of not caring how they feel? Dr. Hurd’s reply: I sometimes say to people: ‘You pay … Continue reading
Q: You wrote in a recent column: ‘It might be a fear of accomplishing something, and being found out as a fraud.’ I would welcome your thoughts on this type of thinking. I mention this because I have felt this … Continue reading
Dear Dr. Hurd: I am a 26-year-old girl/woman, living in Europe. From time to time I check in on your website and I often think that what you are saying about lots of things is smart and rational, and I … Continue reading
Dr. Hurd: In your recent article, “When Noises Drive You Mad”, [Daily Dose of Reason 1/29/13] the questioner was angered by hearing others eat. Could he be affected by an unconscious memory of people eating (leaving no food for him) … Continue reading
Dear Dr. Hurd: Ever since I was a small child, the noises made by other people while they’re eating (specially loud swallowing) have driven me mad. They make me squirm and feel really uncomfortable and angry. Doing a little bit … Continue reading
Dear Dr. Hurd: First off, I just want to say I am a big fan of your writing and I look forward to the Daily Dose of Reason every day. My question for you is: How are you able to … Continue reading
Dear Dr. Hurd: I recently discovered that I have had a serious flaw in my thinking my entire life. Today I read an article of yours I really liked on Capitalism Magazine’s website called: ‘Fear: The Great Inhibitor.’ As you … Continue reading
‘I’m really worried about you.’ On the surface, it seems like a caring and considerate statement. And sometimes, it possibly is. But a lot of the time, people are annoyed when someone says it to them. They don’t know why … Continue reading
Some object to the idea of therapy or life coaching by email, Internet, Skype or telephone. The basis for the objections is almost always something like this: patients improve most in a strong relationship with a therapist experienced at reading … Continue reading