Gratitude is not an empty obligation. It’s not something you express as a duty. You’re grateful because you want to be, and you let yourself be. Gratitude is an expression of justice. It’s a way of acknowledging: “I know someone … Continue reading
Category: Psychology & Self-Improvement
How the Mind Works — and How We Got a Generation of Snowflakes
We all have a conscious mind and a subconscious mind. The conscious mind refers to what we actually THINK. The subconscious mind contains all kinds of things — what we used to think, what we sometimes think, what we agree … Continue reading
Everybody Wants to Be a Victim
Everybody wants to be a victim. It pays psychologically, in our culture, to be a victim. But why? What value or virtue is there in being a victim? Sometimes we admire people who really ARE victims in what they overcame. … Continue reading
Why It Doesn’t Matter if Others Like You
If YOU like yourself, and someone else doesn’t like YOU — then it doesn’t matter. Why should you care about the opinion of someone who doesn’t value what you value? If you DON’T like yourself, then look at that issue … Continue reading
Mental Health Professionals Are Doing Transgender Persons a Disservice
Check out this amazing, touching and highly informative interview by Candace Owens of transgender surgery “survivor” Walt Heyer. Walt was dressed as a girl as a young boy by a disturbed grandmother, and later sexually molested by an uncle. Those … Continue reading
The Unhealthy Thinking Behind “It’s Not FAIR!”
“Transgender Man: Women Won’t Date Me, And That’s Not Fair” (headline of a Daily Wire article) I won’t even read the article. I could not care less about what the transgender man/woman has to say. I really don’t care at … Continue reading
“Tyrants Don’t Get Rid of Rules; They Pile Them On” (Strassel)
“Obama finished his final 2016 calendar year with an all-time Federal Register record of 95,894 pages. A year later, on December 29, 2017, the first year of Trump, the Federal Register concluded at 61,308 pages. It was the lowest count … Continue reading
The Psychology of People Who Will NOT Be Loved
I have noticed that with very emotionally sick and sad people, you cannot treat them well. You cannot compliment them, you cannot build them up or support them — even when it’s earned. It doesn’t mean you should treat them … Continue reading
What Causes People NOT to be Motivated
It’s usually not a question of being motivated to do something. It’s a question of HOW motivated you are. Sometimes people say, “I have to find my motivation to do such-and-such”. In the therapy session I’ll ask them, “Aren’t you … Continue reading
Greta
Let’s see. Psychologists are saying it’s mean to criticize Greta because she has Aspergers, in their opinion. But why can’t we criticize her ridiculous message? And why shouldn’t we criticize the brainwashing she endured at the hands of anti-intellectual, pretentious … Continue reading
What the Heck is Hope and How Can You Get Some?
Sometimes people tell themselves, “Others are suffering worse than I am. So who am I to complain?” It’s not a healthy approach. Because the other person’s suffering — even if it IS worse than yours — doesn’t change the fact … Continue reading
You Cannot Change Others; But You Can TRAIN Them
You can’t CHANGE others. You can TRAIN them. You can TRAIN them by showing them what you will not tolerate. You can refuse to tolerate their actions, and you can withdraw your presence when their actions bother you. You might … Continue reading