Some couples seek marriage therapy for the wrong reasons. Often subconsciously, one or both parties doesn’t want a solution. Instead, one spouse wants to see the other humiliated, shamed and/or corrected. By whom? By the therapist. On one level, it … Continue reading
Category: Psychology & Self-Improvement
Self-Control: Why Have It?
A recent study described at Psychology Today confirms the obvious: People with greater self-control are more likely to achieve their goals. “Goals” mean anything from planning your day to having a rewarding career to losing weight. The less obvious question: … Continue reading
The Chronically Late Person You Know
“There are few habits as infuriating as someone making us wait. But, despite what may be running through your mind as you’re kept waiting again, it’s unlikely your friends and colleagues are just being selfish. A look into the psychology … Continue reading
The Joys of Gratitude
Gratitude is not an empty obligation. It’s not something you express as a duty. You’re grateful because you want to be, and you let yourself be. Gratitude is an expression of justice. It’s a way of acknowledging: “I know someone … Continue reading
How the Mind Works — and How We Got a Generation of Snowflakes
We all have a conscious mind and a subconscious mind. The conscious mind refers to what we actually THINK. The subconscious mind contains all kinds of things — what we used to think, what we sometimes think, what we agree … Continue reading
Everybody Wants to Be a Victim
Everybody wants to be a victim. It pays psychologically, in our culture, to be a victim. But why? What value or virtue is there in being a victim? Sometimes we admire people who really ARE victims in what they overcame. … Continue reading
Why It Doesn’t Matter if Others Like You
If YOU like yourself, and someone else doesn’t like YOU — then it doesn’t matter. Why should you care about the opinion of someone who doesn’t value what you value? If you DON’T like yourself, then look at that issue … Continue reading
Mental Health Professionals Are Doing Transgender Persons a Disservice
Check out this amazing, touching and highly informative interview by Candace Owens of transgender surgery “survivor” Walt Heyer. Walt was dressed as a girl as a young boy by a disturbed grandmother, and later sexually molested by an uncle. Those … Continue reading
The Unhealthy Thinking Behind “It’s Not FAIR!”
“Transgender Man: Women Won’t Date Me, And That’s Not Fair” (headline of a Daily Wire article) I won’t even read the article. I could not care less about what the transgender man/woman has to say. I really don’t care at … Continue reading
“Tyrants Don’t Get Rid of Rules; They Pile Them On” (Strassel)
“Obama finished his final 2016 calendar year with an all-time Federal Register record of 95,894 pages. A year later, on December 29, 2017, the first year of Trump, the Federal Register concluded at 61,308 pages. It was the lowest count … Continue reading
The Psychology of People Who Will NOT Be Loved
I have noticed that with very emotionally sick and sad people, you cannot treat them well. You cannot compliment them, you cannot build them up or support them — even when it’s earned. It doesn’t mean you should treat them … Continue reading
What Causes People NOT to be Motivated
It’s usually not a question of being motivated to do something. It’s a question of HOW motivated you are. Sometimes people say, “I have to find my motivation to do such-and-such”. In the therapy session I’ll ask them, “Aren’t you … Continue reading