It’s usually not a question of being motivated to do something. It’s a question of HOW motivated you are. Sometimes people say, “I have to find my motivation to do such-and-such”. In the therapy session I’ll ask them, “Aren’t you … Continue reading
Category: Psychology & Self-Improvement
Let’s see. Psychologists are saying it’s mean to criticize Greta because she has Aspergers, in their opinion. But why can’t we criticize her ridiculous message? And why shouldn’t we criticize the brainwashing she endured at the hands of anti-intellectual, pretentious … Continue reading
What the Heck is Hope and How Can You Get Some?
Sometimes people tell themselves, “Others are suffering worse than I am. So who am I to complain?” It’s not a healthy approach. Because the other person’s suffering — even if it IS worse than yours — doesn’t change the fact … Continue reading
You Cannot Change Others; But You Can TRAIN Them
You can’t CHANGE others. You can TRAIN them. You can TRAIN them by showing them what you will not tolerate. You can refuse to tolerate their actions, and you can withdraw your presence when their actions bother you. You might … Continue reading
The Mind or the Tribe?
“The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning … Continue reading
Who Are the Worst (Best) Liars?
The biggest — and best — liars are insecure people. Insecure people get their sense of reality and validation from the approval of others. Their premise is, “If you like me, then I’m OK and all is OK with the … Continue reading
Deconstructing a Snowflake
The essence of a snowflake? It’s not political leftism. That’s just a consequence. What makes a snowflake a snowflake: The inability/unwillingness to see the consequences or impact of one’s own actions. Snowflakes live in their HEADS. Snowflakes have a rational, … Continue reading
How to Respond to People Who Call You a Hater
I am so tired of hearing “hater” used as an accusation. It’s an accusation with no meaning whatsoever. The implication is, “If you hate something or someone, that means you’re bad.” But how on earth can that be true? Before … Continue reading
Snowflakes Are Questioners — Not Thinkers
Thinking and questioning are not the same thing. The world, these days, is full of questioners. “I question white privilege”. “I question the benefits of capitalism”. They ASSUME they are thinkers, but upon quizzing them, you soon discover there hasn’t … Continue reading
People Who Are At War With Food
Sometimes people are at war with food. You hear things like this: “I don’t eat pizza”. “I would never eat fried chicken — not even as an occasional treat”. Or: “No way — no dessert for me…not ever!” We are … Continue reading
Friends vs. Politics
Losing friends over politics is a good thing. It’s a discovery of the truth: You don’t have the same ideals. Ideals matter. I have thought I liked certain people until I discover the envy, implicit nastiness and general depravity underlying … Continue reading
The Choice to Choose
If someone you know or love has a problem, but does not SEE it as a problem … then it’s going to STAY a problem. That’s just how it is. People don’t overcome problems without defining their problems AS PROBLEMS. … Continue reading