You can’t CHANGE others. You can TRAIN them. You can TRAIN them by showing them what you will not tolerate. You can refuse to tolerate their actions, and you can withdraw your presence when their actions bother you. You might … Continue reading
“The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning … Continue reading
The biggest — and best — liars are insecure people. Insecure people get their sense of reality and validation from the approval of others. Their premise is, “If you like me, then I’m OK and all is OK with the … Continue reading
The essence of a snowflake? It’s not political leftism. That’s just a consequence. What makes a snowflake a snowflake: The inability/unwillingness to see the consequences or impact of one’s own actions. Snowflakes live in their HEADS. Snowflakes have a rational, … Continue reading
I am so tired of hearing “hater” used as an accusation. It’s an accusation with no meaning whatsoever. The implication is, “If you hate something or someone, that means you’re bad.” But how on earth can that be true? Before … Continue reading
Thinking and questioning are not the same thing. The world, these days, is full of questioners. “I question white privilege”. “I question the benefits of capitalism”. They ASSUME they are thinkers, but upon quizzing them, you soon discover there hasn’t … Continue reading
Sometimes people are at war with food. You hear things like this: “I don’t eat pizza”. “I would never eat fried chicken — not even as an occasional treat”. Or: “No way — no dessert for me…not ever!” We are … Continue reading
Losing friends over politics is a good thing. It’s a discovery of the truth: You don’t have the same ideals. Ideals matter. I have thought I liked certain people until I discover the envy, implicit nastiness and general depravity underlying … Continue reading
If someone you know or love has a problem, but does not SEE it as a problem … then it’s going to STAY a problem. That’s just how it is. People don’t overcome problems without defining their problems AS PROBLEMS. … Continue reading
Hi, I just read your article entitled, “Is Rehab Just an Empty – and Expensive – Promise?” I gave up drinking at age 59, back in 2001. I did not want to exchange one addiction, drinking, with another, AA. I’ve … Continue reading
Life is short. But it’s also important. We forget that. Follow Dr. Hurd on Facebook. Search under “Michael Hurd” (Rehoboth Beach DE). Get up-to-the-minute postings, recommended articles and links, and engage in back-and-forth discussion with Dr. Hurd on … Continue reading
A Psychology Today article asks: Why Is It Hard When Friends Disapprove of Our Relationships? Basically, the article argues that approval from family members matters. As one example, research found that members of same-sex relationships, when and if they obtain … Continue reading