It’s defensiveness. Define defensiveness? It’s when you respond as if you’re on the attack — when you haven’t been attacked. Defending oneself matters — with an actual adversary. But you’re not in a relationship with an adversary. Your spouse is … Continue reading
“I don’t have any expectations,” people sometimes say. Or, “I don’t know what to expect.” It’s not that they’re lying when they say this; but they are mistaken. Why? Because you almost always have expectations. You have no choice about … Continue reading
Sen. Cory Booker (D-N.J.) has been heavily criticized for his theatrics at Brett Kavanaugh’s Supreme Court confirmation hearings, particularly after Republicans revealed that the “confidential” documents Booker published Thursday morning in supposed defiance of Senate rules had already been cleared … Continue reading
I saw a headline today. “Is Indoctrinating children with militant feminism child abuse?” Even if it’s not legally feasible to enforce it, YES. It’s child abuse. But the issue is even broader. Indoctrinating a child with anything is child abuse. … Continue reading
“The truth will set you free”. It’s a beautiful and elegantly true statement — IF you take it the right way. Naming, facing and living with objective truth means living in reality. Reality is where you ARE — so it … Continue reading
If someone is important enough to have in your life, they should be important enough to listen to. If you act in a contradictory way, claiming they’re important while rarely listening, then the fault is yours when the relationship deteriorates … Continue reading
Why do some people need the last word? What’s appealing, rationally or not, about the last word? You see it all the time on social media when people get into small or heated arguments. But the phenomenon existed long before … Continue reading
The most important rule of any romantic relationship or marriage? Never see your loved one as your adversary. Why? Because he or she isn’t your adversary. If he or she is your adversary, then you’re in the wrong place. Forget … Continue reading
New research suggests that radiation from smartphones is negatively impacting teenagers’ memories, leaving them with short-term memory loss. The concern is that a year’s worth of radiation could be enough to damage the part of the brain that interprets images … Continue reading
Feelings don’t last. Feelings always leave. And that’s a good thing. That’s how you cope with feelings — your own, or another’s. Feelings are not necessarily facts. Feelings can have little, none or total objective validity. But even when feelings … Continue reading
Hurting the ones you love makes no sense. People worthy of your time and presence are worthy of your respect. You should treat them the best. Follow Dr. Hurd on Facebook. Search under “Michael Hurd” (Rehoboth Beach DE). Get … Continue reading
I am so sick of studies on “what women want” or “what men want”. The premise of such a study is that men and women want fundamentally different things. How true is that? What scientific basis is there for taking … Continue reading