Men are from Mars. Women are from Venus. Dr. John Gray wrote the book — literally — more than twenty-five years ago. The premise? Men want to find solutions to problems. Women want to vent. Men and women fight because … Continue reading
Is free will a myth? No way. How do we know? Because I am free to think we have free will; and you, if you disagree, are free to think we do not. The definition of free will is thinking. … Continue reading
“I have found that when you love life, life will love you back.” (Arthur Rubenstein) In other words, your life is yours to shape. You are its driver. Life does not owe you anything. There’s nothing whatsoever that you’re entitled … Continue reading
According to one school of psychology, we all have an ideal self and an actual self. The actual self consists of what we actually think, do, and feel. The ideal self is our conscious or subconscious evaluation of who we … Continue reading
Pope Francis gave his usual rant yesterday about the evils of capitalism, advanced civilization and material well-being. “For many people, life’s meaning is found in possessing, in having an excess of material objects. An insatiable greed marks all human history, … Continue reading
#1: Unearned guilt. Unearned guilt is a feeling of responsibility for something that’s not your fault. Healthy people see the unearned guilt for what it is, and correct it. Others become overly humble and self-effacing. Leftists do neither. They become … Continue reading
Duty vs. responsibility. Is there a difference? You bet there is. And the difference explains the anxiety, neurosis and also many of the political differences we find in today’s world. Duty is a mindless obligation. It’s an arbitrary edict set … Continue reading
I love it when people say — intending it as an insult — “You need a therapist”. If you really think therapy is a useful and constructive process, why would you hurl it as an insult? I would only recommend … Continue reading
The following is a post of mine from Facebook when I was asked why people are so stubborn about changing their minds, even in the face of overwhelming evidence, as with socialism: A friend of mine once told me of … Continue reading
“I don’t believe in therapy.” If you say this, you’re in error. Why? Because therapy refers to your mind. Your mind is REAL. Your subconscious is real. Your subconscious refers to your emotions, your unspoken assumptions and your thoughts/ideas. If … Continue reading
It’s defensiveness. Define defensiveness? It’s when you respond as if you’re on the attack — when you haven’t been attacked. Defending oneself matters — with an actual adversary. But you’re not in a relationship with an adversary. Your spouse is … Continue reading
“I don’t have any expectations,” people sometimes say. Or, “I don’t know what to expect.” It’s not that they’re lying when they say this; but they are mistaken. Why? Because you almost always have expectations. You have no choice about … Continue reading