Most people troubled over something feel at least a little better after talking about it. The two exceptions are: people with obsessive depression or obsessive anxiety. Obsessive people get worse when they think or talk about something, while everyone else seems … Continue reading
People tend to respond to others as friends because of what they have found either lacking in themselves, or in life. Although you may be hard-pressed to name them, you have qualities that another lacks. To you those qualities are … Continue reading
People confuse frustration and anger. Frustration looks and feels like anger, but it’s something different. Anger is response to an injustice. Injustice means: This person could and should have done something different. Frustration means: I wish things could be different … Continue reading
When in doubt, or feeling troubled, go to the facts. When you are feeling something, write down the feeling. Then make yourself identify the facts that support the feeling (if any exist) and the facts that refute or contradict the … Continue reading
It’s helpful to distinguish between failing and merely making an error. The very word “fail” is toxic for many people. An honest error can take place through honest reasoning, but errors are almost always correctable. However, if your habitual internal … Continue reading
Does it ever make sense to pressure loved ones, or others, to do what you want? Pressuring is an ineffective thing, in most cases. In a few cases, maybe someone agrees with you about what their priorities should be, and … Continue reading
The core of being self-responsible is managing your emotions. Managing your emotions means recognizing and accepting the premise that not all of your feelings are necessarily logical and based on facts. This recognition leads to a self-responsible habit of not … Continue reading
There are two ways to describe the same phenomenon or experience. One: “I tend to start one task before completing another. This annoys those around me as well as myself. Sometimes, there’s a rationale for what I’m doing. I could … Continue reading
Wrong premise: Disappointments are disasters. Wrong premise: The risk of disappointment can never be outweighed by the possibility of happy outcome. Wrong premise: Life is a performance (for others) rather than a focused experience (for myself). These wrong premises contribute … Continue reading
Most people waste time on people who are no good for them — in business or personal lives. What’s needed with a toxic or undesirable person is an exit strategy. Forget all the analysis about “why is the person the … Continue reading
Don’t reject something for its failure to live up to the impossible. If you do, you’ll miss out on the possible.
A fact is never harmful. It’s not always pleasant — but it’s never harmful to know.