Assume that any person you encounter is of potential value to you. If they prove otherwise, then fine; but start with the assumption that they have something to offer you, by being who they are. Let them prove you wrong. … Continue reading
Category: Psychology & Self-Improvement
What Most People Don’t Get
Being “rational” does not mean the absence of feelings. It means knowing what the reasons for your feelings are — and accepting feelings only when there are facts to back them up.
Worry About Worry?
Obsessive anxiety comes from worrying about your anxiety. If you stop trying to fight the anxiety, it will eventually go away. Big caveat here: It won’t go away immediately. So when you tell yourself, ‘Stop fighting it, don’t worry, the … Continue reading
YOU Create Who You Are
Diagnostic labels such as “depression” and “narcissistic personality disorder” and all the rest are of limited value. In some cases, they actually do harm because they imply no personal responsibility on the part of the person with the problem for … Continue reading
What is a “Soul”?
Your soul is your consciousness — i.e., your mind. “Soul” consists of what you think, feel, perceive, hope for, feel angry about, or appraise in any cognitive, mental way. Your thoughts are the most fundamental part of your soul; all … Continue reading
What Confidence Does
Perspective comes from hope and confidence. We all know hope is valuable, but confidence is very important, too. Confidence allows us to assume that we are able to solve and resolve problems—even when in the moment we cannot solve them … Continue reading
Myths of Self
People create myths about themselves. The myth blocks out the need to be aware. Self-deception is the greatest deception of all. Without it, no deception of others is possible.
One Happy Person Plus One Happy Person = Happy Relationship
For a relationship between two people to be happy, it stands to reason that each individual must be able and willing to be happy. Severe and prolonged stress can undercut happiness, but it shouldn’t really be the end of it. … Continue reading
A “Morale To-Do List”
Do you write down at the end of each day what you’re proud of, what you did well, and any evidence of a little bit more improvement? Also, do you write down your plan for the next day to, even … Continue reading
Success Takes Many Forms
A success is anything that brings value to your life that you accomplish. It doesn’t just happen to you; you make it happen. If something has been difficult or a struggle for you personally, and you accomplish it anyway, then … Continue reading
Roads and Destinations
You might have heard the phrase, ‘It’s not about the destination. It’s the road that gets you there.’ That’s wrong. It poses a false alternative. It implies that either you focus on the road, or you focus on the destination—and this … Continue reading
Does Talking It Out Help?
Most people troubled over something feel at least a little better after talking about it. The two exceptions are: people with obsessive depression or obsessive anxiety. Obsessive people get worse when they think or talk about something, while everyone else seems … Continue reading