If you define yourself by your work, then you have reversed the order of things. You’re serving your career rather than having your career serve you. Even the simplest job exists to serve you–for income and, if possible, for fulfillment. … Continue reading
Anger means a response to objective injustice. There are small, medium and large injustices–so there are appropriate degrees of reaction for each. It’s not an injustice for someone to dislike you. It’s not an injustice for someone to think differently … Continue reading
The great joy of spontaneity is not that it’s mindless. You’re able to be spontaneous because you already know, from self-awareness, what you want, and why. So when the moment comes–you seize it! Spontaneity is for thinkers.
Keeping your thoughts to yourself is not particularly desirable, or undesirable. Knowing what your thoughts really are, and what they imply, and whether you can stick by them–these are what count. If you’re impulsive and speak without thinking, you’re not … Continue reading
It’s not WHO you know; it’s HOW you know. It’s not the method of your interactions with others that shapes your destiny; it’s the method of your mind’s interaction with the world around you–with reality–that counts. The people you know … Continue reading
Expertise consists of two things: The thinking one puts into something, and the experience one gains. It’s important to take your experience seriously. Degrees and credentials matter, but not out of context; and sometimes experience counts for more than the … Continue reading
To delay is to put something off to a particular time, that you intend to stick to, and for a reason you know and can objectively justify. To procrastinate is to put something off because you feel like it. You don’t … Continue reading
If you’re a busy person, let go of the myth of “catching up.” You won’t ever catch up. Or, even if you do, you’ll be “behind” again before long. I suggest more positive and attainable goals such as being efficient, … Continue reading
The depressed person said to the happy person: “This isn’t all there is. This can’t be all there is!” The happy person replied: “What else would there be?”
People look at either “nature” or “nurture” as a way to explain their behavior. In other words: “Do I act and think the way I do because of my family upbringing?” Or: “Do I act and think the way I … Continue reading
To say, “He remembers what he WANTS to remember” is sometimes true. It doesn’t mean that the forgetful person deliberately chooses not to remember something that he actually does. This would merely be deception. But sometimes a person only remembers … Continue reading
If you think about it, complaining usually makes no sense. To “complain” means to repeatedly state a fact that something is negative. But if you can do something to alter that negative fact, there’s no point talking about it–simply change … Continue reading