People look at either “nature” or “nurture” as a way to explain their behavior. In other words: “Do I act and think the way I do because of my family upbringing?” Or: “Do I act and think the way I … Continue reading →

To say, “He remembers what he WANTS to remember” is sometimes true. It doesn’t mean that the forgetful person deliberately chooses not to remember something that he actually does. This would merely be deception. But sometimes a person only remembers … Continue reading →

If you think about it, complaining usually makes no sense. To “complain” means to repeatedly state a fact that something is negative. But if you can do something to alter that negative fact, there’s no point talking about it–simply change … Continue reading →

Social or interpersonal anxiety is a message that ‘there’s a threat,’ but the anxiety is mistaken. The signal in your mind got mixed up, because it all happens so quickly. Your mind sends you the signal: ‘threat.’ In reality, there’s … Continue reading →

If you always think of yourself as a failure, you will always be a failure. You will not enjoy the benefits of your success and you will not be able to look at your errors rationally so as to correct … Continue reading →

Which to choose–McCain or Obama? The choice is between a man who does not deserve to be President, and a man who will be intolerable as President. That being said, the winner of the title Commander-in-Chief is patently obvious. It … Continue reading →

Bullies are, by definition, insecure. They are unsure about something. They choose to handle the anxiety aroused by this uncertainty through intimidating others (mentally or physically). Bullies come in all shapes and sizes. Many of them are card-carrying, socially acceptable … Continue reading →

There’s no reason to ever consider yourself “hopeless.” First of all–you’re all you’ve got. You cannot give up on yourself, because you’re going to be with yourself, either way. More than that, a desire to “give up on yourself” implies … Continue reading →

Jealousy and envy make no rational sense. If someone else accomplished something you cannot, then there’s nothing you can do about it. Why be bothered by it? Also, the fact that you cannot do something says nothing whatsoever about what … Continue reading →

Passive-aggressive people are worse than aggressive people. At least aggressive people tell you, in words and action, where they stand. Where they stand may be wrong. But at least you know, and at least they tell you. Passive-aggressive people don’t … Continue reading →

People often want to hit the “restart” button on their personal relationships, or past decisions. They wish they could go back in time and make decisions all over again, with knowledge they now possess. This makes no sense at all. … Continue reading →

I’m rather startled by the number of perfectly reasonable people who think they might be “crazy” and, because I’m a therapist by profession, will see that they are “crazy.” Crazy refers to psychosis, meaning a complete break with a recognition … Continue reading →