Keeping your thoughts to yourself is not particularly desirable, or undesirable. Knowing what your thoughts really are, and what they imply, and whether you can stick by them–these are what count. If you’re impulsive and speak without thinking, you’re not … Continue reading
Category: Psychology & Self-Improvement
Who You Know
It’s not WHO you know; it’s HOW you know. It’s not the method of your interactions with others that shapes your destiny; it’s the method of your mind’s interaction with the world around you–with reality–that counts. The people you know … Continue reading
Expertise and Ego
Expertise consists of two things: The thinking one puts into something, and the experience one gains. It’s important to take your experience seriously. Degrees and credentials matter, but not out of context; and sometimes experience counts for more than the … Continue reading
Putting Off
To delay is to put something off to a particular time, that you intend to stick to, and for a reason you know and can objectively justify. To procrastinate is to put something off because you feel like it. You don’t … Continue reading
The Myth of Being “Caught Up”
If you’re a busy person, let go of the myth of “catching up.” You won’t ever catch up. Or, even if you do, you’ll be “behind” again before long. I suggest more positive and attainable goals such as being efficient, … Continue reading
Different Perspectives
The depressed person said to the happy person: “This isn’t all there is. This can’t be all there is!” The happy person replied: “What else would there be?”
To Choose, Not to Blame
People look at either “nature” or “nurture” as a way to explain their behavior. In other words: “Do I act and think the way I do because of my family upbringing?” Or: “Do I act and think the way I … Continue reading
Memory and Emotions
To say, “He remembers what he WANTS to remember” is sometimes true. It doesn’t mean that the forgetful person deliberately chooses not to remember something that he actually does. This would merely be deception. But sometimes a person only remembers … Continue reading
Complain, Complain
If you think about it, complaining usually makes no sense. To “complain” means to repeatedly state a fact that something is negative. But if you can do something to alter that negative fact, there’s no point talking about it–simply change … Continue reading
The “Threat” of Interpersonal Anxiety
Social or interpersonal anxiety is a message that ‘there’s a threat,’ but the anxiety is mistaken. The signal in your mind got mixed up, because it all happens so quickly. Your mind sends you the signal: ‘threat.’ In reality, there’s … Continue reading
View of Self Counts
If you always think of yourself as a failure, you will always be a failure. You will not enjoy the benefits of your success and you will not be able to look at your errors rationally so as to correct … Continue reading
The Choice
Which to choose–McCain or Obama? The choice is between a man who does not deserve to be President, and a man who will be intolerable as President. That being said, the winner of the title Commander-in-Chief is patently obvious. It … Continue reading