The Buddha Got This One Right

…universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection. — Buddha Follow Dr. Hurd on Facebook. Search under “Michael Hurd” (Rehoboth Beach DE). Get up-to-the-minute postings, recommended articles and links, and engage in back-and-forth discussion with Dr. Hurd on topics of interes… Continue reading

“The Grass is Always Greener” Fallacy

…ld choose what they want, but they don’t think they know how. All-American freedom and opportunity become emotional burdens to people who otherwise want to love life but simply don’t know how to make choices. Impossible perfectionism can also lead to a ‘grass is always greener’ attitude. In other words, no matter what you have or what you accomplish, it will never be good enough. The obvious result is never being satisfied with any relationship, a… Continue reading

‘Tis the Season NOT to Stress

…iltlessly enjoy whatever makes you happy.     Follow Dr. Hurd on Facebook. Search under “Michael Hurd” (Charleston SC). Get up-to-the-minute postings, recommended articles and links, and engage in back-and-forth discussion with Dr. Hurd on topics of interest. Also follow Dr. Hurd on Twitter at @MichaelJHurd1, drmichaelhurd on Instagram, Michael Hurd Ph.D. on LinkedIn, @DrHurd on TruthSocial   Why Get Help? Solution-focused life coaching with Dr. H… Continue reading

Can “single-think” become “couple-think?” (DE Coast Press)

…This ‘single-think’ has to change when the search for a spouse begins. The compromises that come with partnered life can be unsettling. My friend’s conflicts with her boyfriends always seem to center on his imposition into her treasured routines. He’s mean because he gets angry when she’s an hour late. Or she suffers through his choice of a movie, only to complain to her friends the next day. Or she wants to go out; he wants to stay in, etc., etc…. Continue reading

“Hair Care Reform” via SWAT Teams in Florida

…lity is that most people are trustworthy. This is because, especially in a free society and free market where nothing is given out by the authorities for free, it’s in people’s rational self-interest to be honest. Honesty and integrity are good for business. Honesty has survival value. I’m not suggesting we don’t need any government to apprehend and prosecute the occasional people who will be found — after due process of law — to have possibly or… Continue reading

Can “single-think” become “couple-think?” (DE Coast Press)

…This “single-think” has to change when the search for a spouse begins. The compromises that come with partnered life can be unsettling. My friend’s conflicts with her boyfriends always seem to center on his imposition into her treasured routines. He’s mean because he gets angry when she’s an hour late. Or she suffers through his choice of a movie, only to complain to her friends the next day. Or she wants to go out; he wants to stay in, etc., etc…. Continue reading

Remind Them Why You Care (DE Wave)

And, surprise, surprise, after her prodding, he had checked himself into rehab. Did she save him? I’ll never know. But at least she convinced him to give it a try. Be sure to “friend” Dr. Hurd on Facebook. Search under “Michael Hurd” (Rehoboth Beach DE). Get up-to-the-minute postings, recommended articles and links, and engage in back-and-forth discussion with Dr. Hurd on topics of interest…. Continue reading

The Mayor of New York Gets Mugged by Reality

…think of this as I watch the hapless mayor of New York City respond to the latest attack on police (again in Brooklyn, just last night.) “Thank God these officers are doing well,” New York City Mayor Bill de Blasio said in a news conference at the hospital early Tuesday. “These officers did something that was extraordinarily brave. They did it as part of their commitment. These officers had just come off their shift and upon hearing this call went… Continue reading

How to Reduce Stress NEXT Christmas

…brightly wrapped presents under the tree. But in the interest of a stress-free holiday, you can propose other options. For example, suggest that each person draw a single name for which they will buy. Some large families and offices do this all the time. Or what about a memorable experience like a cruise or a trip – anything that isn’t doomed to collect dust in the attic. I’m not advocating any particular way to exchange gifts. What I am saying i… Continue reading

How to Really Talk to an Alcoholic

…mportant—to him. And remind him that the only reason you’re expressing your concern is because you do see potential being wasted. If you see this, why doesn’t he?   Be sure to “friend” Dr. Hurd on Facebook. Search under “Michael Hurd” (Rehoboth Beach DE). Get up-to-the-minute postings, recommended articles and links, and engage in back-and-forth discussion with Dr. Hurd on topics of interest…. Continue reading

“I’ve Misplaced My Sense of Purpose and Can’t Seem to Find It”

…is subsidizing your passion and enabling you to take a stab at what you’d really love to do in life. This sort of phenomenon is actually more common with younger people, but you get the idea: A central purpose is what animates and livens even the most mundane of activities, giving them purpose and meaning where there otherwise would have been none. If dates, milestone events, new concerts and so forth lack the lustre they once held for you, I’d s… Continue reading