Behavioral therapies can be seductive, especially to parents who want a quick fix for a difficult child. The danger of behavioral therapy, however, lies in its failure to recognize the importance of the mind, even in a young child. Granted, … Continue reading
Most people form their opinions based on the conclusions of at least one, and usually two or more significant people. It’s as if someone else holding a viewpoint makes it valid or real, but until you find a person holding … Continue reading
Take your dreams seriously. This means taking some action on your dream, almost every day. If your dream is capable of being realized, then you’ll see the progress that springs from action. If your dream is not possible to actualize, … Continue reading
Competition can absolutely be rational. I applaud the value of team sports, both for players and spectators. It’s an optional value, but definitely an objective value in life. People can compete for unhealthy or healthy reasons. You won’t likely know … Continue reading
One form of “magical thinking” is the false belief that someone can “be stopped” from a self-destructive or self-defeating course. The magical thinking starts with the belief, “I should be able to stop him/her.” What follows is, “If I cannot … Continue reading
In less enlightened times, people assumed that mental and emotional distress — severe anxiety and depression, for example — had no cause, other than maybe supernatural. Today, it’s assumed that these are totally caused by brain chemistry. But has it … Continue reading
Sometimes people rewrite history. They do so after the end of a marriage, romantic relationship or friendship. Rewriting history, in the sense I’m talking about, means altering the facts to suit your new conclusions. It means leaving your own errors … Continue reading
Other people are not entitled to your time; nor are you entitled to theirs. If someone purchases your time, then they’re entitled because you gave your voluntary consent to provide some of your time for that purpose. This applies to … Continue reading
Someone recently asked me about controlling mothers — in other words, why are so many that way? There can be many causes, but the most likely one is a false belief (on the part of the mother) that a parent … Continue reading
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The purpose of a holiday is not to be rational and kind to yourself, and your loved ones, while not being this way the rest of the time. Happiness is not, or should not be, reserved for holidays. I view … Continue reading
Here’s what a friend of mine (familiar with my writing) said to another friend when told by a therapist that her cheating husband is “depressed.” Note that when a therapist uses the word “depressed,” it’s most often code for: “I … Continue reading