Perspective comes from hope and confidence. We all know hope is valuable, but confidence is very important, too. Confidence allows us to assume that we are able to solve and resolve problems—even when in the moment we cannot solve them … Continue reading
People create myths about themselves. The myth blocks out the need to be aware. Self-deception is the greatest deception of all. Without it, no deception of others is possible.
For a relationship between two people to be happy, it stands to reason that each individual must be able and willing to be happy. Severe and prolonged stress can undercut happiness, but it shouldn’t really be the end of it. … Continue reading
Do you write down at the end of each day what you’re proud of, what you did well, and any evidence of a little bit more improvement? Also, do you write down your plan for the next day to, even … Continue reading
A success is anything that brings value to your life that you accomplish. It doesn’t just happen to you; you make it happen. If something has been difficult or a struggle for you personally, and you accomplish it anyway, then … Continue reading
You might have heard the phrase, ‘It’s not about the destination. It’s the road that gets you there.’ That’s wrong. It poses a false alternative. It implies that either you focus on the road, or you focus on the destination—and this … Continue reading
Most people troubled over something feel at least a little better after talking about it. The two exceptions are: people with obsessive depression or obsessive anxiety. Obsessive people get worse when they think or talk about something, while everyone else seems … Continue reading
People tend to respond to others as friends because of what they have found either lacking in themselves, or in life. Although you may be hard-pressed to name them, you have qualities that another lacks. To you those qualities are … Continue reading
People confuse frustration and anger. Frustration looks and feels like anger, but it’s something different. Anger is response to an injustice. Injustice means: This person could and should have done something different. Frustration means: I wish things could be different … Continue reading
When in doubt, or feeling troubled, go to the facts. When you are feeling something, write down the feeling. Then make yourself identify the facts that support the feeling (if any exist) and the facts that refute or contradict the … Continue reading
It’s helpful to distinguish between failing and merely making an error. The very word “fail” is toxic for many people. An honest error can take place through honest reasoning, but errors are almost always correctable. However, if your habitual internal … Continue reading
Does it ever make sense to pressure loved ones, or others, to do what you want? Pressuring is an ineffective thing, in most cases. In a few cases, maybe someone agrees with you about what their priorities should be, and … Continue reading