People will say you’re crazy when you make no sense. They’ll also call you crazy when you DO make sense, but they don’t like what you’re saying. Consider Ted, who’s angry with his wife Suzy because he feels that she … Continue reading
Category: Psychology & Self-Improvement
Is Too Much Happiness a Good Thing? (Part 2 of 2)
Conclusion of yesterday’s column. Reporter: I think lots of people confuse happiness with fun, and the dangers there are obvious. People who are always looking for that moment-to moment ‘high’ are, it seems to me, far less likely to find … Continue reading
Is Too Much Happiness a Good Thing? (Part 1 of 2)
Dr. Hurd recently engaged in a discussion with a journalist about issues related to happiness, self-esteem, psychology, self-help, and much more. What follows are some excerpts from that discussion: Reporter: It seems to me that we have a fundamental confusion … Continue reading
Why Happiness Eludes So Many People
Human beings have a tendency to project impossible wishes onto figures that they deem to be capable of impossible things. Some project these wishes onto parent figures — actual parent figures, or imagined ones if their real parents disappointed them … Continue reading
Walking on Eggshells and Marriage Do NOT Mix
Dear Dr. Hurd, I am a gay man. My partner of two years and I got married in Massachusetts after being together for about a year. I thought everything was perfect, but things have changed. He criticizes everything I do. … Continue reading
The Empty Promise of “Rehab”
The notorious and documented failures of drug and alcohol rehab (made even more public by Hollywood’s perpetually neurotic glitterati) can be attributed to a single, primary factor: The addict only addresses the symptoms—the act of abusing alcohol or drugs. However, … Continue reading
Does it Pay to Appease? (Part 2 of 2)
Conclusion of Friday’s column. I don’t mean to imply that entitlement is always wrong. Let’s say you buy a new computer. You get home, carefully read the instructions, and the computer doesn’t work, so you take the computer back to the … Continue reading
Does it Pay to Appease? (Part 1 of 2)
When dealing with other people, the reasonable, sensitive, and even self-interested thing to do is compromise, and be prepared to meet the other person halfway. Correct? Well, not really. All action needs to be purposeful. That includes the action of … Continue reading
The Psychology of Self-Starvation
According to Dr. Walter Kaye, professor of psychiatry at the University of Pittsburgh, anorexics use starvation as a mode of self-medication. How? Starvation prevents tryptophane, an essential amino acid that produces serotonin, from getting into the brain. By eating less, … Continue reading
Medicating the Mind (Part 3 of 3)
Coercion, Psychotherapy and Psychiatry: Can A Mind Be Made To Reason? Sally Satel, a physician who wrote a book entitled ‘P.C., M.D.: How Political Correctness Is Corrupting Medicine,’ likewise fails to see the point about her profession. On the one … Continue reading
Medicating the Mind (Part 2 of 3)
What Do Pills Really Do To Change Your Life? At best, a pill can calm or sedate you. Sometimes this might be a good idea, but more often it probably isn’t. If you’re too calm or sedated, how can you … Continue reading
Medicating the Mind (Part 1 of 3)
What disturbs me most about the trend towards ‘medication first/medication exclusively’ is not the notion of medication itself. If a pill could cure problems as well as the medical establishment would have us believe, then life would be an effortless … Continue reading