Dear Dr. Hurd, I need advice on what to say to my husband of more than 10 years. He is in a complete snit because he’s starting to lose his hair. I couldn’t care less, and frankly I think he … Continue reading →

Some people lie in order to gain something for nothing. The “gain” consists of money, property or respect from others. However, most people who lie don’t do so for this reason. Most people who lie do so out of fear. … Continue reading →

A reader asks, “What happens if a client you see for personal help doesn’t agree with you on politics?” Psychotherapy isn’t about politics. So there’s no need to ever discuss it, not in sessions. However, politics is a branch of … Continue reading →

Dear Dr. Hurd, Everything seemed perfect when we first met 8 months ago. Now, my girlfriend is starting to get bossy and controlling. She interrupts me, finishes my sentences, and always seems to have a better way of doing everything. … Continue reading →

A lot of times, people are looking for a “quick fix” to their problems, particularly emotional/behavioral or relationship problems. The common response is, “You can’t always have a quick fix. Life is a process, and problem-solving can take time.” This … Continue reading →

Dear Dr. Hurd: First of all I greatly enjoy reading your columns since what you write is like my unexpressed thoughts put into words! With that out of the way… My boyfriend of two years has just moved in with … Continue reading →

A reader writes with the following quote: “Have you ever considered that your biggest problem is that you haven’t failed ENOUGH?” (Matt Hussey) He writes: I like what this implies. Not enough risk taking toward value obtainment and missing your … Continue reading →

Question from a reader: If you sense something is bothering your partner or friend, whose responsibility is it to initiate dialogue? The person who is upset or the person who is sensing something? The person who is bothered is responsible, … Continue reading →

Dear Dr. Hurd: I‘ve been put in a very uncomfortable position by my best friend’s girlfriend. Right out of nowhere, she tried to sell me … shall we say … an illegal substance. Not the end of the world, I … Continue reading →

According to a study done by LinkedIn.com, the # 1 reason that three-quarters of employees dislike or hate their jobs is … the boss. If you dislike your boss because your boss has undesirable characteristics, that’s fine. But if you … Continue reading →

Dear Dr. Hurd, My mother is in her mid-70s, and both my husband and I have a great relationship with her. When she comes to visit, she’s always anxious to go out and meet our friends. Christmas is here and … Continue reading →

Dear Dr. Hurd, I’ve been in a relationship with the same woman for 10 years. (We haven’t married.) I love her, but I’ve met another woman who has swept me off my feet. We’ve been discreetly seeing one another in … Continue reading →