Dear Dr. Hurd: I work in the Washington Navy Yard, the scene of the recent shooting. I understand the reasons why I’m physically feeling the way I am (sleeping poorly, eyes scratchy, throat feels like I’m holding back tears, chest … Continue reading
Category: Psychology & Self-Improvement
Psychological Health in One Sentence
Don’t you believe in flying saucers, they ask me? Don’t you believe in telepathy? — in ancient astronauts? — in the Bermuda triangle? — in life after death? No, I reply. No, no, no, no, and again no. One person … Continue reading
How Much Alcohol is Too Much?
Dear Dr. Hurd, If someone who’s young and immature stops drinking alcohol, and abstains for years, and later becomes mature and mentally healthy, can that person now drink normally? Dr. Hurd’s reply: There’s honestly no way to know, unless you … Continue reading
What Made Alexis Do It?
A reader asked me if, in the context of our free will, that bad philosophy has the potential to push people toward madness or psychosis. Absolutely. Actually, people drowning in madness and psychosis are, by definition, drowning in mistaken or … Continue reading
The Pain of “Marriage Remorse”
Dr. Keith Ablow, a media psychiatrist, recently wrote some interesting comments about married people’s attitudes towards marriage: Marriage is so suffocating for so many people that it makes millions of people wish they could hit ‘rewind’ on their lives and … Continue reading
The Psychology of God (Part 2 of 2)
Conclusion of yesterday’s column. In a strange way, the subjectivist view could be considered on the route to reason and rationality. A rational outlook, unlike the subjectivist one, insists that the facts of reality are what they are, and they … Continue reading
The Psychology of God (Part 1 of 2)
A reader comments: Unfortunately, most people who believe in God have never bothered, and are probably afraid, to define ‘God.’ A word like that, left undefined, is, I think, a very destructive thing over time. After many years of not … Continue reading
The Intelligence of Wisdom (Part 2 of 2) (with Jose Ruenes)
Conclusion of yesterday’s column. Wisdom and Age Does wisdom have anything to do with age? Not all elderly people are considered wise, but many are. And by virtue of being old, an elderly person usually has the benefit of the … Continue reading
The Intelligence of Wisdom (Part 1 of 2) (with Jose Ruenes)
‘He’s wise.’ This means, perhaps, having knowledge one is not expected to have. As in: wise beyond one’s years. Sometimes you’ll observe the following about a person: ‘He’s highly intelligent. But he’s not very wise.’ Or, ‘He lacks common sense, … Continue reading
Motivation is Everything
The key to understanding what makes a person ‘tick’—yourself, or another—is motivation. Motivation refers to why you do what you do—on the most fundamental and emotional of levels. Motivation is a fact of one’s psychological make-up. It’s not unchangeable. Motivation … Continue reading
So You Want to Be a Therapist?
Dear Dr. Hurd: I am a 60 year-old-male considering a career change. I am interested in acquiring a degree and becoming a therapist. I am most interested in childhood trauma and its connection to PTSD if there is any. Much … Continue reading
Love, Romance and “The Shock of Recognition”
Many have written about romantic love, or all love, as a ‘mystery’. Or a product of ‘fate.’ Or ‘divine guidance,’ ‘karma,’ or other impossible-to-comprehend factors. But how about trying to explain this mystery called love? Why surrender all understanding of … Continue reading