A lot of people assume, “I don’t think like a victim. I’m rational, self-responsible and don’t think anyone owes me a living. Victim-think only afflicts those who feel entitled, or who are otherwise irrational.” Not so. Victim-think is a psychological … Continue reading
Dear Dr. Hurd, My husband and I have been together for over 25 years. He has always been finicky about cleanliness and “everything being in its place.” But recently he seems to be getting worse. After a 12-hour day at … Continue reading
Dear Dr. Hurd: I’m hoping you can help out with my twenty-seven-year-old son. He doesn’t have a drug problem or anything, and I don’t think he’s especially depressed. He was diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) back in high … Continue reading
Dr. Hurd, there are house hunting TV shows that feature people buying houses outside the US. They’re interesting, but something I hear frequently from the buyers puzzles me and I thought you might want to comment. The buyers frequently comment … Continue reading
When people are anxious, depressed or otherwise emotionally troubled, they seek to control their feelings. Unfortunately, the goal of controlling your feelings is at odds with one very important fact. Your emotions are the output — not the input. They’re … Continue reading
What is anger? Rationally and objectively defined, anger is an emotional response to a perceived or actual injustice. When you’re truly angry, you believe someone has done something wrong. “Wrong” is the standard to which you consciously (or subconsciously) subscribe. … Continue reading
Dear Dr. Hurd: After many years, I finally coaxed by boyfriend to go into therapy. He didn’t really want to do it, and in truth he’s doing it more for me. It’s been a few months now, but I don’t … Continue reading
Hi Dr. Hurd, I was visiting my chiropractor yesterday. Not sure how we got around to the topic, but I posed the question if she had millions of dollars, would she still work and be a chiropractor. Her answer was … Continue reading
Love is not sacrifice. When you love someone, you want them to be happy; not miserable. When you love someone, you want them to do something for you because they want to, not because it’s a sacrifice. You want their … Continue reading
A reader writes: My husband and I have been together for 17 years. I gained some weight over the last few years and our physical relationship became almost nonexistent. We are still very close; we cuddle and say nice things, … Continue reading
A reader writes: What does it say about a person who is prone to offering others unsolicited advice without a polite prompting of the shift of conversation? And why would the object of that unsolicited advice be understandably offended when … Continue reading
Dear Dr. Hurd, I need advice on what to say to my husband of more than 10 years. He is in a complete snit because he’s starting to lose his hair. I couldn’t care less, and frankly I think he … Continue reading