When experiencing doubts about a relationship or marriage, here’s a question you might not have considered asking yourself: Does the existence of my relationship/marriage make my life better than it otherwise would be? It’s so easy to lose perspective; to … Continue reading
Dear Dr. Hurd: I enjoyed your article “Owning Your True Feelings..” regarding passive-aggressive behavior. In the last paragraph, you wrote: “You can’t change passive-aggressive people, but you can make it a lot harder for them by being forthright and direct. … Continue reading
Here’s a question people ask too infrequently in the area of romantic love: Do I admire and respect my partner/spouse? We are all taught that love means warmth, support, and sex. Of course romantic love does include these things. But … Continue reading
Most people think of the victim mentality as something of a modern development. Perhaps some of its more bizarre manifestations have come to the surface in recent years. Today we do hear more about silly lawsuits and the plight of … Continue reading
Back in 1911, Edgar Farrar’s son, Edgar, Jr., was shot dead in New Orleans by a thief named Rene Canton. Canton was found guilty and the evidence was overwhelmingly against him. Canton was sentenced to death by hanging. However, the … Continue reading
A study published in the July issue of Cognitive Science determined that children who are not exposed to religious stories are better able to tell that characters in “fantastical stories” are fictional — whereas children raised in a religious environment … Continue reading
Teenage rebellion and obnoxious behavior are considered a normal and universal part of growing up. But is this assumption valid? First of all, we have to distinguish between rebellion and individuation. Individuation refers to the inevitable and necessary psychological (and … Continue reading
A number of readers ask: Why do I care so much for the opinions of other people? I am profoundly anxious about others’ opinions and judgments about me. What can I do to change this? The reason you want to … Continue reading
“It’s all ego.” “He did it out of ego.” “I don’t want this to be about ego. I want it to be about something better, or higher.” We hear these things all the time. Many of us even say this … Continue reading
Dr. Hurd, here is a related issue to what makes people succeed. I take issue with parents/teachers who tell their young children/students: “You can be anything you want to be in life.” Some of these adults add: “ … as … Continue reading
A lot of people wonder what causes depression. One of the major contributing factors is a certain way of thinking. If I had to boil it down to a single phrase, I’d call it: victim-think. Another term, more popular in … Continue reading
The headlines read: Man falls ill with Ebola after arriving in Texas from Liberia. A reader and Facebook friend of mine wrote on her timeline: I’m not panicked about this, because I think the reason this disease spreads so far … Continue reading