#1: Unearned guilt. Unearned guilt is a feeling of responsibility for something that’s not your fault. Healthy people see the unearned guilt for what it is, and correct it. Others become overly humble and self-effacing. Leftists do neither. They become … Continue reading
Duty vs. responsibility. Is there a difference? You bet there is. And the difference explains the anxiety, neurosis and also many of the political differences we find in today’s world. Duty is a mindless obligation. It’s an arbitrary edict set … Continue reading
I love it when people say — intending it as an insult — “You need a therapist”. If you really think therapy is a useful and constructive process, why would you hurl it as an insult? I would only recommend … Continue reading
The following is a post of mine from Facebook when I was asked why people are so stubborn about changing their minds, even in the face of overwhelming evidence, as with socialism: A friend of mine once told me of … Continue reading
“I don’t believe in therapy.” If you say this, you’re in error. Why? Because therapy refers to your mind. Your mind is REAL. Your subconscious is real. Your subconscious refers to your emotions, your unspoken assumptions and your thoughts/ideas. If … Continue reading
It’s defensiveness. Define defensiveness? It’s when you respond as if you’re on the attack — when you haven’t been attacked. Defending oneself matters — with an actual adversary. But you’re not in a relationship with an adversary. Your spouse is … Continue reading
“I don’t have any expectations,” people sometimes say. Or, “I don’t know what to expect.” It’s not that they’re lying when they say this; but they are mistaken. Why? Because you almost always have expectations. You have no choice about … Continue reading
Sen. Cory Booker (D-N.J.) has been heavily criticized for his theatrics at Brett Kavanaugh’s Supreme Court confirmation hearings, particularly after Republicans revealed that the “confidential” documents Booker published Thursday morning in supposed defiance of Senate rules had already been cleared … Continue reading
I saw a headline today. “Is Indoctrinating children with militant feminism child abuse?” Even if it’s not legally feasible to enforce it, YES. It’s child abuse. But the issue is even broader. Indoctrinating a child with anything is child abuse. … Continue reading
“The truth will set you free”. It’s a beautiful and elegantly true statement — IF you take it the right way. Naming, facing and living with objective truth means living in reality. Reality is where you ARE — so it … Continue reading
If someone is important enough to have in your life, they should be important enough to listen to. If you act in a contradictory way, claiming they’re important while rarely listening, then the fault is yours when the relationship deteriorates … Continue reading
Why do some people need the last word? What’s appealing, rationally or not, about the last word? You see it all the time on social media when people get into small or heated arguments. But the phenomenon existed long before … Continue reading