I am so sick of studies on “what women want” or “what men want”. The premise of such a study is that men and women want fundamentally different things. How true is that? What scientific basis is there for taking … Continue reading →

People compliment my articles in one of two ways. One, “What a great article! Thank you for putting into words what I thought but could not say.” Two, through calling me names without attempting to persuade me where I was … Continue reading →

I don’t wish to be unkind. But facts are facts. A victim is someone who has something bad happen to him, totally against his will and without any say or control in the matter. Suicide does not “happen” to someone. … Continue reading →

In the wake of fashion icon Kate Spade’s suicide, people are saying, “How could it happen? She owned her industry. She was an icon. She had everything to live for, didn’t she?” Obviously not. If you truly believe you have … Continue reading →

What causes self-righteousness? And what’s the difference between self-righteousness and authentic confidence or certainty? Self-righteousness comes from a psychological place of fear. Authentic certainty comes from serenity. When people are self-righteous, they often feel attacked. It’s like they’re attacking you … Continue reading →

Dimitrious Pagourtzis, the Santa Fe High School shooter, appears to be “disoriented,” and his mood varies from “very emotional,” to “weirdly nonemotional”, according to his lawyers. Why do you always read this when a sociopathic killer is arrested and held? … Continue reading →

The stronger you love, the stronger you hate. It’s inevitable. It’s logical. It’s psychologically necessary. You love what you value. You love a person. You love your child. You love your pet. You love your home, your car, or whatever … Continue reading →

A motorist suspected of killing 10 people by driving a van down a sidewalk in Toronto is scheduled to appear in court Tuesday. Canadian police have been looking for a motive behind Monday’s attack that also injured 15 others. Toronto … Continue reading →

Here’s the psychology of socialism, in 3 simple-to-understand components. # 1: Wish-fulfillment # 2: Eradication of the law of cause and effect # 3: Virtue-signaling Example: Vermont Independent and self-described socialist Sen. Bernie Sanders has a new plan to give … Continue reading →

The following is from my booklet, Self-Esteem and Other Tools for Rational Living:   What is the emotional appeal of being considered a victim, since so many people—especially people like Betty—seem to like it? Being a victim is easy. It … Continue reading →

The following is from my book Bad Therapy Good Therapy: And How to Tell the Difference:   To accept the view of man as a rational animal does not preclude the fact that emotions are a normal and potentially beautiful … Continue reading →

So many people misunderstand forgiveness. You cannot forgive someone who’s not sorry. I repeat:  You CANNOT forgive someone who’s not sorry. This isn’t merely an opinion. I’m not saying, “You SHOULD not forgive someone who’s not sorry.” That would be … Continue reading →