Does talking help? Sometimes yes, sometimes no. Sometimes, talking is worrying. Worrying accomplishes nothing, although it raises blood pressure and tension. Sometimes talking is: planning; thinking; developing a rational, or more positive, perspective. Talking in and of itself is neither … Continue reading
Most of all, don’t believe your own B.S. Your mind might create illogical conclusions based upon illogical assumptions. It happens subconsciously. It’s outside of your awareness–but not outside of your control. That which you can identify and change is always, … Continue reading
Q: Sometimes I’m jealous of those who have a steadfast passion for a concrete professional goal or at least a general career, and don’t get too obsessed with all the possibilities their choices have excluded. A: The presence of a … Continue reading
The key issue with respect to anxiety is: ‘Am I willing to surrender to what I cannot control—while redoubling my efforts to take charge of what I can control?’ People tend to feel severe anxiety as they get more caught … Continue reading
If it’s true that errors result in new knowledge, then yesterday’s error is today’s — and tomorrow’s — triumph.
Q: I have difficulty turning ideas into action. I find myself rapidly switching directions on what I want to accomplish (both short term goals and long term) which essentially freezes me into inaction. A: The concern you express here actually … Continue reading
People get confused about focus. People say, ‘I cannot focus.’ In that moment this may be literally true, but they CAN revert back to the activity of focusing. Let’s say you’re really committed to reading a book, and you like … Continue reading
Q: Dr. Hurd, I’m told that I have Attention Deficit Disorder and I’m skeptical. It’s not that I don’t have problems paying attention; I do. I constantly lose interest in things. But even on medication I still have problems. Plus, … Continue reading
Q: What exactly is “tough love” and do you subscribe to it? A: “Tough love” refers to a true principle: The idea that just because you love someone doesn’t always mean you’re going to tell them what they want to … Continue reading
Are you impatient? Do you have unrealistic expectations of yourself and others? This is a major cause of the depressive feeling that life isn’t really valuable or worthwhile. Are you intolerant? Of course some things deserve intolerance—such as evil, or … Continue reading
A rational purpose is equivalent to being in a ship, on the ocean, with a compass/computer pointing you towards a selected destination. To have no rational purpose is like being that ship, completely adrift in the ocean with nowhere to … Continue reading
For motivation to take place, it has to be for yourself. It can either be: ‘I’m doing this exclusively for myself’ as, say, a novelist or an artist. Or, it can be: ‘I’m doing this for my boss but really … Continue reading