Speaking on impulse is one of the biggest mistakes people make. They don’t give themselves time to carefully choose their words and positions. They speak in a hostile and defensive tone, taking away from any validity in what they have … Continue reading
It’s not too hard to detect the difference between an arrogant person and a genuinely confident person. An arrogant person has found a way to control other people, at least so far as he is concerned. He considers this a … Continue reading
Insults from a fool are just as good as compliments from the worthy. Both serve as a testimonial to what you’re doing right.
If others shouldn’t tell you what to do, then who should? THINKING tells you what to do. Thinking is based on two things: (1) Facts and (2) reasoning, via logic. Include all relevant facts so you are thorough and honest … Continue reading
Facts won’t hurt you. They don’t bite. Sometimes facts aren’t pleasant. But they all must be faced and responded to. How can you respond to facts intelligently if you don’t know what they are? And aren’t they operating, in reality, … Continue reading
Being a grown-up means you get to make your own decisions. To independent types, this is welcome news. To others, it’s disturbing and profoundly frightening news. Too bad. Being a grown-up means you HAVE to make your own decisions. This … Continue reading
You’re not entitled to success. How do I know this? Because there’s nobody doing the entitling. Success is not the result of some unseen Santa Claus giving it away. Success comes from effort, but it also comes from other things. … Continue reading
Dear Dr. Hurd: My wife and I argue a lot. It seems destructive in some ways. But we do make up in the end. I sometimes wonder if arguing is the only constructive way to solve problems. What do you … Continue reading
A therapist is not your doctor; a therapist is your guide. A therapist does not “do” something “to” you to make you better. A therapist goes with you–sometimes advising, sometimes guiding, sometimes simply being there. A therapist is not your … Continue reading
A friend is someone who, by definition, gives you benefit because of who he or she is. It’s not a tangible benefit — such as money, or property. A tangible benefit arises in a business transaction, not in a friendship … Continue reading
There are two kinds of people perceived as “bossy.” The first really means well. He wants to see something done right, and he’s objective in his approach. He looks at facts and determines what makes most sense. He actually is … Continue reading
Time is often our enemy. But why? Time is simply a measurement of reality. Reality is not an enemy, not to a reasonable person. The problem is that most of us have more priorities than time. The existence of time … Continue reading