If friends or family implore you to “get help,” don’t get caught up in wondering if you need help or not. Don’t focus on whether they’re right. Instead, consider this: They are tired of hearing you complain. They are weary … Continue reading
Reason gives you the truth — via facts and logic. Emotions put you in touch with the truth. Being in touch with reality is the essence of mental health and well-being. Therefore, emotions are obviously very important. Reason apart from … Continue reading
To be a “loser” is not to have lost. To be a “loser” is to think YOU are the victim and everyone else is the victimizer, regarding anything negative that ever happens in life. A loser is someone who thinks … Continue reading
Speaking on impulse is one of the biggest mistakes people make. They don’t give themselves time to carefully choose their words and positions. They speak in a hostile and defensive tone, taking away from any validity in what they have … Continue reading
It’s not too hard to detect the difference between an arrogant person and a genuinely confident person. An arrogant person has found a way to control other people, at least so far as he is concerned. He considers this a … Continue reading
Insults from a fool are just as good as compliments from the worthy. Both serve as a testimonial to what you’re doing right.
If others shouldn’t tell you what to do, then who should? THINKING tells you what to do. Thinking is based on two things: (1) Facts and (2) reasoning, via logic. Include all relevant facts so you are thorough and honest … Continue reading
Facts won’t hurt you. They don’t bite. Sometimes facts aren’t pleasant. But they all must be faced and responded to. How can you respond to facts intelligently if you don’t know what they are? And aren’t they operating, in reality, … Continue reading
Being a grown-up means you get to make your own decisions. To independent types, this is welcome news. To others, it’s disturbing and profoundly frightening news. Too bad. Being a grown-up means you HAVE to make your own decisions. This … Continue reading
You’re not entitled to success. How do I know this? Because there’s nobody doing the entitling. Success is not the result of some unseen Santa Claus giving it away. Success comes from effort, but it also comes from other things. … Continue reading
Dear Dr. Hurd: My wife and I argue a lot. It seems destructive in some ways. But we do make up in the end. I sometimes wonder if arguing is the only constructive way to solve problems. What do you … Continue reading
A therapist is not your doctor; a therapist is your guide. A therapist does not “do” something “to” you to make you better. A therapist goes with you–sometimes advising, sometimes guiding, sometimes simply being there. A therapist is not your … Continue reading