A therapist is not your doctor; a therapist is your guide. A therapist does not “do” something “to” you to make you better. A therapist goes with you–sometimes advising, sometimes guiding, sometimes simply being there. A therapist is not your friend. A therapist is supposed to be the voice of reason, guiding you to wisdom you already possess. A therapist does not necessarily know more than you. A therapist knows that you can figure out things yourself–and helps you do so.