Does it ever make sense to pressure loved ones, or others, to do what you want? Pressuring is an ineffective thing, in most cases. In a few cases, maybe someone agrees with you about what their priorities should be, and … Continue reading
The core of being self-responsible is managing your emotions. Managing your emotions means recognizing and accepting the premise that not all of your feelings are necessarily logical and based on facts. This recognition leads to a self-responsible habit of not … Continue reading
There are two ways to describe the same phenomenon or experience. One: “I tend to start one task before completing another. This annoys those around me as well as myself. Sometimes, there’s a rationale for what I’m doing. I could … Continue reading
Wrong premise: Disappointments are disasters. Wrong premise: The risk of disappointment can never be outweighed by the possibility of happy outcome. Wrong premise: Life is a performance (for others) rather than a focused experience (for myself). These wrong premises contribute … Continue reading
Most people waste time on people who are no good for them — in business or personal lives. What’s needed with a toxic or undesirable person is an exit strategy. Forget all the analysis about “why is the person the … Continue reading
Don’t reject something for its failure to live up to the impossible. If you do, you’ll miss out on the possible.
A fact is never harmful. It’s not always pleasant — but it’s never harmful to know.
People sometimes say, “He’s having a hard time because of his situation” or, “I’m depressed because of what happened to me.” Actually, it’s not events (or people) that “make” you feel a certain way. It’s your thoughts and ideas that … Continue reading
Many people wonder about the feasibility of working from home if there’s a lack of self-discipline. Work discipline is a two-way street. When it’s time to work (by rationally predetermined guidelines), then it’s time to work. Likewise, when it’s NOT … Continue reading
If you carry your childhood with you, you never become older. — Author unknown
Q: Dr. Hurd, how can cognitive therapists such as yourself say that you have responsibility for your feelings? I don’t feel what I feel on purpose! A: Your feelings are the consequence of your thoughts and ideas. In fact, your … Continue reading
It’s reasonable to feel hurt and disappointed by people when they do disappointing things. However, it’s a complete mistake to apply these feelings, beliefs or standards to anyone new, or to people in general. Every person you encounter and meet … Continue reading