Dear Dr. Hurd: Thank you for writing the piece on handling people who want to validate their irrational emotions. You answered it from your perspective as a therapist. What I also would like to know is what I could do … Continue reading
A reader sent in the following quote found somewhere on Facebook: “Funny thing is that social psychology research says that the more you think things through, the less logical your action — gives you too much time to rationalize.” It’s … Continue reading
Dr. Hurd: How do you (as a psychotherapist/life coach) deal with someone one who wants you to validate their irrational emotions and accuses you of not caring how they feel? Dr. Hurd’s reply: I sometimes say to people: ‘You pay … Continue reading
Q: You wrote in a recent column: ‘It might be a fear of accomplishing something, and being found out as a fraud.’ I would welcome your thoughts on this type of thinking. I mention this because I have felt this … Continue reading
Dear Dr. Hurd: I am a 26-year-old girl/woman, living in Europe. From time to time I check in on your website and I often think that what you are saying about lots of things is smart and rational, and I … Continue reading
Dr. Hurd: In your recent article, “When Noises Drive You Mad”, [Daily Dose of Reason 1/29/13] the questioner was angered by hearing others eat. Could he be affected by an unconscious memory of people eating (leaving no food for him) … Continue reading
Dear Dr. Hurd: Ever since I was a small child, the noises made by other people while they’re eating (specially loud swallowing) have driven me mad. They make me squirm and feel really uncomfortable and angry. Doing a little bit … Continue reading
Dear Dr. Hurd: First off, I just want to say I am a big fan of your writing and I look forward to the Daily Dose of Reason every day. My question for you is: How are you able to … Continue reading
Dear Dr. Hurd: I recently discovered that I have had a serious flaw in my thinking my entire life. Today I read an article of yours I really liked on Capitalism Magazine’s website called: ‘Fear: The Great Inhibitor.’ As you … Continue reading
‘I’m really worried about you.’ On the surface, it seems like a caring and considerate statement. And sometimes, it possibly is. But a lot of the time, people are annoyed when someone says it to them. They don’t know why … Continue reading
Some object to the idea of therapy or life coaching by email, Internet, Skype or telephone. The basis for the objections is almost always something like this: patients improve most in a strong relationship with a therapist experienced at reading … Continue reading
The most important thing for a parent to remember is to teach his or her child to think. A reader once wrote me a note in which she elaborated on how she teaches her child to think in all kinds … Continue reading