When dealing with someone younger — or older — many people mistakenly make age the primary factor. For example, “You’re younger than I am. You have no idea what I’m talking about.” Why does age have to be the primary … Continue reading →

Dear Dr. Hurd, Everything seemed perfect when we first met 8 months ago. Now, my girlfriend is starting to get bossy and controlling. She interrupts me, finishes my sentences, and always seems to have a better way of doing everything. … Continue reading →

A reader writes, “Thanks for your article on talking too much. You leave out one major thing: the nervous system. I talk too much sometimes because I am jumpy and nervous because of anxiety in certain social situations. It’s an … Continue reading →

Dear Dr. Hurd, I’ll get to the point. I can’t get past my anger toward my mother. My husband and I decided never to have children. Though I’ve long since informed her of this, she never misses a chance to … Continue reading →

A reader writes: Although sensitivity is usually considered a desirable trait, I find it a hindrance. It’s very embarrassing when in a professional setting my normally stoical exterior is temporarily interrupted by a critical remark that reveals my sensitivity.  I … Continue reading →

For two decades now, I’ve been hammering away at and questioning the very concept of the alleged disease of “Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.” Now there’s a neurologist with over 50 years of experience asking some of the very same questions. … Continue reading →

Like most people where I live, I am a mid-life transplant from a big city / metropolitan area to a small town, three hours from any major city. Most of my peers have made the comment, “People in this small … Continue reading →

A lot of people assume, “I don’t think like a victim. I’m rational, self-responsible and don’t think anyone owes me a living. Victim-think only afflicts those who feel entitled, or who are otherwise irrational.” Not so. Victim-think is a psychological … Continue reading →

Dear Dr. Hurd, My husband and I have been together for over 25 years. He has always been finicky about cleanliness and “everything being in its place.” But recently he seems to be getting worse. After a 12-hour day at … Continue reading →

Dear Dr. Hurd: I’m hoping you can help out with my twenty-seven-year-old son. He doesn’t have a drug problem or anything, and I don’t think he’s especially depressed. He was diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) back in high … Continue reading →

Dr. Hurd, there are house hunting TV shows that feature people buying houses outside the US. They’re interesting, but something I hear frequently from the buyers puzzles me and I thought you might want to comment. The buyers frequently comment … Continue reading →

When people are anxious, depressed or otherwise emotionally troubled, they seek to control their feelings. Unfortunately, the goal of controlling your feelings is at odds with one very important fact. Your emotions are the output — not the input. They’re … Continue reading →