In dysfunctional families or marriages, an irrational yet smart person can manipulate others. He or she does so by making an outrageous claim, and then daring you to disagree — because disagreeing would make you more outrageous, unless you challenge … Continue reading
People often struggle with “revenge versus forgiveness”. They ask themselves (or others): “When someone has wronged me, should I get back at them? Or, instead: turn the other cheek and forgive them?” It’s a false alternative. Usually the most effective … Continue reading
It’s hard to comprehend a more toxic, psychologically unhealthy or self-destructive mentality than socialism. Or what today we label “woke-ism”. Think about the underlying mindset of woke-ism. Unearned guilt. “You’re a racist. I don’t have to prove it. I know … Continue reading
What we have here is a case of self-loathing and fear of not being liked by her woke peers in D.C. that is SO INTENSE that she can barely function. And, oh yes, she projects her neurotic and irrational thoughts … Continue reading
Author Jordan Peterson has said his life “has not been happy” in the years since he spoke out about a controversial Canadian bill that protected gender expression and identity. My psychological advice to the courageous Jordan Peterson: Once you really … Continue reading
Knowing I’m a therapist as well as a patriot, people write and ask me, “How are we supposed to cope?” My answer: You still have your First and Second Amendments rights; your two most important rights. Well, not really. They’re … Continue reading
Is it true everyone has a right to his or her opinion? Politically, yes. Intellectually — NO. It’s crucial to make the distinction. You don’t have an intellectual right to assert that one plus one equals three. You have a … Continue reading
We talk about freedom and liberty in terms of politics and government. But freedom and liberty have more to do with psychology than with politics. Consider the psychology of shaming. If you’re a dictator, you can’t depend on government for … Continue reading
Leftism is a form of psychological disorder. To be a leftist, you must evade facts — even obvious ones. That’s unhealthy. The evasion is a form of self-deception. That’s bad for your self-esteem. The lack of contact with objective reality … Continue reading
NOTHING gets better in America until people eradicate their irrational fears. Their irrational fears and unrealistic need for total control lead them to believe the media; cower in terror over the flu; embrace big government socialism; favor censorship; and seek … Continue reading
Unhealthy, neurotic people “need” a crisis. Because they’re irrational and neurotic, they can’t stand happiness. Their subconscious generates a disaster for them, something for them to manage so they can feel self-sacrificial and heroic. They find no heroism in happiness, … Continue reading
I am a psychotherapist. I don’t prescribe medication. Rather, I talk to people about their emotions, their relationships and (sometimes) their mental disorders. Lately I’ve been asked for my psychological take on COVID-19 and the resulting lockdowns. My answer has … Continue reading