A Wisconsin woman is looking for answers after she said Southwest Airlines refused to let her use her cellphone to make a call that could have saved her husband’s life. On April 3, Karen Momsen-Evers was flying back to Milwaukee … Continue reading
Category: Psychology & Self-Improvement
Excuses: Barriers to Self-Understanding
We’ve all heard (or told ourselves) how it’s wrong to make excuses. However, we don’t usually focus on why it’s bad for ourselves to make excuses. Usually, the unspoken implication is: “Well, excuses would be nice for me; but I … Continue reading
How Arbitrary Assertions Can Harm Relationships
The following is an excerpt from my book, Bad Therapy Good Therapy (And How to Tell the Difference), available for sale on this site, and elsewhere. Case Example of an Arbitrary Assertion Joe and Melissa have been married for sixteen … Continue reading
What’s the Healthy Way to Express Feelings?
Psychologically, people tend to struggle with a false alternative. On the one side, they bottle up their feelings. On the other side, they express their feelings, but in an indiscriminate way. Mental health professionals have largely failed their patients/clients in … Continue reading
Birth Order and Its Impact on Achievement in Life
A very good article published by Ronald Riggio, Ph.D., at psychologytoday.com challenges the idea that first born children usually end up high achievers. Riggio states, It is important to also note that when we rely on our own experience, we … Continue reading
The Psychology of Complaining
Wise words from an article on the psychology of complaining at psychologytoday.com: If you decide you want to lodge a complaint, make a plan, says Winch. First, determine exactly what you want to achieve (don’t let someone else pick a … Continue reading
Moral Dilemma: Cutting People Too Much Slack…?
A reader writes: Dear Dr. Hurd: A persistent problem I’ve had is why on earth people (and a lot of them) think that if they know a person, somehow that person’s bad behavior is exempt from moral condemnation. For example, … Continue reading
Escapism vs. Refueling: Good? Bad? Or Indifferent?
A psychology student writes with the following questions: “What is your opinion on escapism, i.e., the act of escaping everyday stress through fantasy and entertainment? Is it a healthy way to relieve stress?” Dr. Hurd replies: The term “escapism” usually … Continue reading
Unconditional Love: Not All It’s Cracked Up to Be
Following an article I wrote about marriage, a reader commented on Facebook: Marriage requires an enduring commitment, selflessness (dedication to something other than oneself), and a well-developed sense of humor, among other attributes. Selfish people rarely make it work….” Another … Continue reading
What Does It Mean to “Change Your Mind”?
“He changed his mind.” Or: “I hope she changes her mind.” Or: “Maybe you can change his mind.” “Change your mind.” It’s a simple, everyday statement. It passes without notice. But it contains more profound assumptions than most of us … Continue reading
Gays and Lesbians: Born That Way?
The following was published several years ago in my booklet, Human Relationships in Plain English. Are homosexuals “born that way”? There’s no way to answer this question for certain. In order to do so, we would have to know everything … Continue reading
Leonard Nimoy Gave Us a Character for the Ages
Probably the best tribute to an actor is to mourn not just that actor’s passing, but the loss of the character he brought to life. Many are distressed not just because the actor is gone; but the character — Mr. … Continue reading