Before you donate your time or money to the many charities and causes out there, first nurture your sense of self. To truly help others, you must feel good about you. Most of us are taught to not be ‘selfish.’ … Continue reading →

I get a lot of questions about hypnosis. The most common misperception is that it’s a state of unconsciousness, like sleep. Actually, most experts define hypnosis as a ‘special psychological state with certain physiological attributes, resembling sleep only superficially and … Continue reading →

I spend a lot of time writing about how you can change the way you feel by changing the way you think. In other words, considering the facts as they actually are and then allowing your feelings to follow suit. … Continue reading →

I’ve received multiple emails asking me to repeat this popular article. Memorial Day weekend seems like the perfect opportunity to remind everybody to try and act civilized on the roads. As everyone shares (or pretends to share) the local roads, … Continue reading →

Dear Dr. Hurd, I read your column every week, and I like what you say. But sometimes, when I try to make suggestions to my husband or my adult children, it turns into an unpleasant ‘heated discussion.’ I am truly … Continue reading →

‘An apology is a good way to have the last word.’ If this old saying is true, then why is it difficult for many people to apologize — even when they know they’re wrong? I talk to a lot of … Continue reading →

I received some interesting responses to my recent article about ‘feeling good’ being a primary goal in life. The majority of your comments centered on the role that friends, family and even TV news programs play in making us feel … Continue reading →

A Delaware Wave reader emailed me that he and his wife argue quite a bit. Though it seems destructive, he says they always make up, with the problem solved. He asks if arguing is a constructive way to solve problems. … Continue reading →

Dear Dr. Hurd, I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m a compulsive talker. My crazy need to say something or answer someone (even when no answer is required) often gets me into trouble. When I talk I get carried away. … Continue reading →

A reader emails about a sticky situation: She and her husband are empty nesters, both with professional careers. Hers is unstable by its nature, and the loss of her job is imminent. Her husband is happy in his secure career … Continue reading →

We read every day about notorious failures of drug and alcohol rehab, made even more public by Hollywood’s perpetually neurotic glitterati. Is it all a scam? Well, in fact, some people do successfully untangle themselves from drug and/or alcohol abuse. … Continue reading →

A reader emails that her boyfriend expresses no preferences or opinions regarding pretty much anything. She’s beginning to feel resentful about it, and asks if it’s wrong to resent a love interest who consistently does this. It’s hard to believe … Continue reading →