Dear Dr. Hurd, I totally disagree with some of my friends on many things, especially the recent election—and now the holidays are coming up and I have to be with them. Yikes! Because of my anger and frustration over what … Continue reading
Category: Life’s a Beach!
Challenge your Emotions
With the summer season behind us, those of us who live in resort areas will often experience increased interaction among friends, family, partners and spouses. In spite of all the positive aspects, some of that time together might not be … Continue reading
Boo!
Halloween rituals have always fascinated me. Psychologically, the custom of dressing up in costumes asks (and answers) many questions. The religious and mystical foundations supposedly stem from the ancient belief that if you disguise yourself on this special night, a … Continue reading
Music hath charms…
By the time you read this, the final notes of this year’s Rehoboth Beach Autumn Jazz Festival will have faded away. How can music (nothing more, really, than periodic variations in air pressure) make us crave the presence of those … Continue reading
More on jealousy and cheating…
Dear Dr. Hurd, I really liked your article about being suspicious and jealous of your husband or wife, even though there’s no evidence that he or she is having an affair. But what, exactly, is ‘evidence?’ Should I get suspicious … Continue reading
Retirement isn’t “playing hooky.”
‘I can’t wait ’til I retire!’ ‘Ahh, retirement—no more commute, no more taking orders, no more responsibilities!’ We hear comments like these all the time from hard-working people. Indeed, the ‘holy grail’ of retirement is, and should be, the ultimate … Continue reading
What’s next after the kids move out?
‘Empty Nest Syndrome.’ What a great name! Despite the cute avian overtones, numerous websites and support groups devote themselves to this traumatic condition that arises for parents when the kids finally leave home. Though I’ve talked to many moms and … Continue reading
Why compromise?
I hear it every day: ‘A good marriage requires hard work and compromise.’ ‘The secret of our relationship is’ sacrifice.’ Blah, blah. Well, I have a different take on the subject. It’s not that I’m against compromise altogether. Life as … Continue reading
Who can you trust?
A woman who visited the beach this summer sent me an email in which she admits that she constantly feels jealous and threatened by her boyfriend’s popularity with other people, especially women. She goes on to say that it’s painful … Continue reading
Say no to bullies!
As kids begin to settle into the school year, the subject of bullying inevitably comes up. Parents, teachers and kids ask me what makes bullies act the way they do. Well, there are competing theories, and I could probably write … Continue reading
Decide for Yourself
I’ve always liked the old proverb, ‘If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will take you there.’ Whenever I hear it, I immediately want to follow it up with something like, ‘So you’d better be ready for whatever … Continue reading
Learn to let go
Dear Dr. Hurd: I saved your article from last year about facts vs. fears. I still read it from time to time, but I can’t seem to get past my biggest fear: Flying in an airplane. Every little bit of … Continue reading