People often ask me if people lie to their therapists. Though it seems kind of self-defeating — considering they’re paying for the sessions — I will admit that I’ve gotten pretty good at figuring out when somebody is lying. Most … Continue reading
Category: Life’s a Beach!
Pity is Not Love!
A visitor to DrHurd.com writes, ‘My wife of two years goes out of her way to control me. Everything from constant phone calls asking where I am, to ordering me to go to sleep when it suits her or to … Continue reading
Marriage Alone isn’t Enough
Of all the things that people ask me about (both in and out of my office), marriage, relationships and commitment are always at the top of the list. And for good reason! Research published by Scientific American Mind shows that, … Continue reading
Nurture Your Own Sense of Self First
Before you donate your time (or money) to the various charities and causes here at the beach, it’s important to nurture your own sense of self. To help others, you must first feel good about you. Most of us are … Continue reading
Teens and self-respect
When it comes to teenagers, one of the subjects that comes up in my office is interpersonal relationships — especially sex. In a study presented at a meeting of the American Public Health Association (APHA), researchers at the University of … Continue reading
Walk the Walk
I recently wrote an article in my web site column, ‘The Daily Dose of Reason’, entitled ‘I’m So Sorry!’ The two ‘celebrities’ who inspired my commentary were none other than Lindsay Lohan (actress turned professional addict) and Levi Johnston (on-again/off-again … Continue reading
Work for yourself
Rarely does a day go by that people don’t talk to me about their jobs. Whether they’re self-employed or work for somebody else, I always say that the best motivation is to work for your own happiness and fulfillment. It … Continue reading
Loving life is Good for You
A concert band, of which several of my friends are members, recently performed at the boardwalk bandstand. Their performance, coupled with a warm breeze and the sound of the ocean, made for a delightful evening. As they played, I couldn’t … Continue reading
What’s Past is Past
A regular reader emails that he is having difficulty coming to terms with his girlfriend’s sexual history. He says that they are very much in love, but that he obsesses over her past with other men. He asks if it’s … Continue reading
Challenge your Fears
Dear Dr. Hurd, I am afraid of blood pressure measurements. It all started three years ago when I had a panic attack. My blood pressure was high, and the emergency medical team mistook it for a heart attack and sent … Continue reading
The Heartbreak of Alzheimer’s
Dear Dr. Hurd,I am the primary caretaker of my aging mother. My efforts and sadness are compounded by the fact that she is suffering from advanced Alzheimer’s. Unlike death, where you grieve and then, in time, return to your daily … Continue reading
Going outside your head
Dear Dr. Hurd, I enjoyed your recent article where you wrote, ‘How you feel is determined by how you think. Think better, feel better. ‘ And it works every time.’ But I wonder if that doesn’t open the door to … Continue reading