Barely a day goes by that somebody isn’t grousing about the Rehoboth Beach parking meters. Though they have yet to come alive for the 2013 season, locals are already figuring out ways to minimize their contact with the infernal little … Continue reading
Category: Life’s a Beach!
A little respect gets things done (DE Wave)
I hear horror stories all the time about bad experiences with service providers. I find it hard to believe that there can be so many tradespeople out there who are rude and/or routinely do shoddy work. And, sure enough, when … Continue reading
Does couples therapy work? (DE Coast Press)
It’s no secret that marital counseling and couples therapy often fail. Even with a skilled therapist, two factors usually stand in the way of success: First, the partners usually wait until one or both have decided it’s too late. It’s … Continue reading
Honest Success isn’t Fraud (DE Wave)
I received an email from a reader regarding a recent column where I wrote that a fear of success could be a fear of being ‘found out’ as a fraud — whether you earned the success or not. The writer … Continue reading
Stop Waiting: Help Yourself! (DE Coast Press)
I appreciate it when people respond to these columns. It’s nice to know that somebody’s on the other end of this keyboard. In a recent article I reiterated the fact that addictions to drugs, alcohol or whatever have been falsely … Continue reading
What the Heck is Misophonia? (DE Wave)
I’ve encountered several clients, and even friends, who report that certain noises make them feel uncomfortable and angry. A bit of research introduced me to the term, misophonia; a debilitating situation where a ‘trigger stimulus’ (some sort of sound) becomes … Continue reading
Your time is your property (DE Coast Press)
Clients often tell me about neighbors who drop-in uninvited. Or children (or worse yet, adults) who can’t keep their hands off of your property. Do you have friends who call and expect you to be available to talk — with … Continue reading
Think before you speak (Delaware Wave)
Dear Dr. Hurd, My ‘new age’ friends are always telling me to ‘Go with my feelings and say what I feel.’ But is it advisable to just blurt out whatever pops into your head — right, wrong or indifferent? Dear … Continue reading
Not everybody welcomes change (DE Coast Press)
I often get questions about personal growth and how it changes relationships with friends, romantic partners and family. When people improve themselves in ways that increase their self-esteem and confidence, their relationships also change. Every person plays a role in … Continue reading
Compromise in Love and Marriage (Delaware Wave)
Several readers have asked me to clarify the difference between short-term compromise and all-out self-sacrifice. More than one Life’s a Beach! column has emphasized that the latter should never be part of a marriage or any partnered relationship. A short-term … Continue reading
The A-B-C of Change (Delaware Coast Press)
A reader sent me a comment about one of my columns where I suggested that the biggest mistake people make is to try to change others. She agrees that the choice of what to think and do will always be … Continue reading
Crazy? Not so fast. (Delaware Wave)
Occasionally, a parent or a spouse will tell me that their child or partner ‘needs help.’ I ask them why they think that, and they either don’t answer me, or they say that they can’t get their loved one to … Continue reading