…rs. You achieved nothing but stress for all your rage and anxiety. Those unrealistic compulsions can arise from the inability to live in the moment. When I suggest to people that they reduce their stress by spending more time living in (and enjoying) the moment, their reaction is often, “I can’t do that. I’ll be disorganized! I’ll get behind!” Wrong. People often tell me they’re amazed that I get all the things done with my full-time practice, dai… Continue reading →

…It’s just a reluctance to take personal responsibility. The author of the website charminghealth.com puts it nicely: “When there are really tough choices, … many people can never make up their minds, and tend to keep that issue lingering. Prolonged indecision or indecisiveness may be due to an extreme fear of risk and responsibility. When we accept the challenge, whatever we do is bound to involve risk, rigor and responsibility. If we run away …… Continue reading →

…t the dog naturally requires, then it’s another story. As he states on his website (cesarsway.com), “Dogs are animals, and they respond to calm, assertive leadership — not emotional arguments or negotiations.” Wow! How many parents of young kids would do well to remember that advice? We expect children to develop beyond the programming of childhood and advance to the conceptual sophistication of adulthood. But in the early years, kids require guid… Continue reading →

…tainly didn’t deserve that.” Who’s going to argue with that? Shakespeare had it right: “This above all: To thine own self be true….” If more people lived by this there would be fewer people NOT to miss when they pass from this life.     Follow Dr. Hurd on Facebook. Search under “Michael Hurd” (Rehoboth Beach DE). Get up-to-the-minute postings, recommended articles and links, and engage in back-and-forth discussion with Dr. Hurd on topics of intere… Continue reading →

…ust your attitude. Give your friends some room to cope by being both vulnerable and considerate. What doesn’t kill a friendship will make it stronger than ever. And the ones that go by the wayside probably should have done so anyway.     Follow Dr. Hurd on Facebook. Search under “Michael Hurd” (Rehoboth Beach DE). Get up-to-the-minute postings, recommended articles and links, and engage in back-and-forth discussion with Dr. Hurd on topics of inter… Continue reading →

…good for you. But there’s nothing noble about being a martyr. If you want to be happy, you’re going to have to change your behavior towards your wife. And that, by far, is the noblest thing you can do for yourself and for your sons.     Follow Dr. Hurd on Facebook. Search under “Michael Hurd” (Rehoboth Beach DE). Get up-to-the-minute postings, recommended articles and links, and engage in back-and-forth discussion with Dr. Hurd on topics of intere… Continue reading →

…a state in which you’re in command of your mind and your life, exercising free will as competently as you can. Along with that sense of control comes a healthy lack of concern for things you can’t control. A serene person is not passive and helpless, but also isn’t a “control freak.” People who lack serenity spend a lot of time fretting over things they can’t control (usually, other people). The serene individual goes after goals that he knows ar… Continue reading →

…“Narcissistic Hysterical Hypocrisy Disorder” (NHHD for short?), it would become acceptable – especially if the drug companies could do a cute TV ad about it. Bottom line? Some people are indeed hypocrites. There. I said it. A hypocrite subscribes to a standard, holds others to that standard, but doesn’t hold herself to that standard. She either doesn’t recognize that it applies as much to her as to others, or she simply denies that she’s not livin… Continue reading →

…t not in that way. The better question is, “How much money do I need, to accomplish what I want to accomplish?” If you don’t have any particular goals or ambitions outside of what you’re seeking to purchase (travel, nice home, nice car, etc.), that may be fine. But if you’d really like to be doing some other kind of work, it could be wise to challenge the assumption that you really need all of the possessions this particular job provides. Differen… Continue reading →