…ay a surgeon might transplant new organs into your body. Your mind is dependent on a physical organ—your brain—but its capacity can only be utilized by your own conscious, deliberate and ongoing choice to initiate thought! To prove this point, simply think of two people with comparable brains who exercise very different choices about how (or even whether) to use their respective brains. Define mental health. Definitions vary widely, but in some fo… Continue reading →

…lings without discrimination. In this area, your subconscious will be your guide. It will tell you what to feel simply by feeling it. Talk the feelings out, write them down, vent them to those willing to listen—whatever works. If you entirely suppress these feelings, they will end up taking over and, as a consequence, your behaviors will become irrational. If you refuse, for example, to accept that you’re hurt by the sense of loss and abandonment,… Continue reading →

…least you won’t be yelling. You might or might not find effective ways to guide these unruly kids, but at least you won’t lose your job. Voice control isn’t as hard as you think. Simply pay attention to your voice. The problem is that when you let yourself get angry and frustrated, you stop paying attention. That’s why you have to find something else to focus on, other than just being angry. You have to remember that these kids are just being kid… Continue reading →

…to be supportive. Of course, if you ask me to agree with you and I cannot comply, because I see logical or factual errors in what you’re saying or doing, I have to be honest and say so. It would be insulting to both of us for me to pretend otherwise, wouldn’t it? Another of my favorites: “I’m not motivated.” This doesn’t really say anything. Basically, it means: “I’m not doing this because I don’t feel like it.” This begs the question: WHY don’t… Continue reading →

…putting more confidence in your walk and in your demeanor.’ Dr.Hurd.: Confidence comes from something much deeper than changing your walking style. You can’t fake confidence. Confidence comes from a sense that your mind is effective and capable; and that you deserve to experience good things by using your mind effectively and capably, and from living a rational, self-responsible existence. If you haven’t been feeling, thinking and acting this way,… Continue reading →