Dear Dr. Hurd, My ‘new age’ friends are always telling me to ‘Go with my feelings and say what I feel.’ But is it advisable to just blurt out whatever pops into your head — right, wrong or indifferent? Dear … Continue reading
Category: Life’s a Beach!
Not everybody welcomes change (DE Coast Press)
I often get questions about personal growth and how it changes relationships with friends, romantic partners and family. When people improve themselves in ways that increase their self-esteem and confidence, their relationships also change. Every person plays a role in … Continue reading
Compromise in Love and Marriage (Delaware Wave)
Several readers have asked me to clarify the difference between short-term compromise and all-out self-sacrifice. More than one Life’s a Beach! column has emphasized that the latter should never be part of a marriage or any partnered relationship. A short-term … Continue reading
The A-B-C of Change (Delaware Coast Press)
A reader sent me a comment about one of my columns where I suggested that the biggest mistake people make is to try to change others. She agrees that the choice of what to think and do will always be … Continue reading
Crazy? Not so fast. (Delaware Wave)
Occasionally, a parent or a spouse will tell me that their child or partner ‘needs help.’ I ask them why they think that, and they either don’t answer me, or they say that they can’t get their loved one to … Continue reading
Thoughts That Defeat Yourself (Delaware Coast Press)
Dear Dr. Hurd, I’ve been depressed for a while now. My doctor wrote me a prescription, and says my depression is a disease. But I feel that the problem is more emotional than medical. I hate the way the pills … Continue reading
The Magic “C” Word for Relationships (Delaware Wave)
Dear Dr. Hurd, I read your column every week, and I like what you say. But sometimes, when I try to make suggestions to my husband or my adult children, it turns into an unpleasant ‘heated discussion.’ I am truly … Continue reading
Nag, Nag, Nag! (Delaware Coast Press)
Few things are more annoying than being nagged (except perhaps being accused of it). Nagging comes from anxiety over the false belief that repetition creates motivation. It never does, and in fact, it lowers respect and reveals weakness by implying, … Continue reading
The Meaning of Self-Medication (Delaware Wave)
How often have we heard — or even said, ‘I need a drink! I’ve had a hard day. I need a nice big meal — or a cigarette!’ In the face of stress, it can be tempting to ‘self-medicate’ with … Continue reading
What’s a Snob? (Delaware Coast Press)
Are you a snob? Do you know one? What, exactly, is a snob? In order to know that, we first have to explore why people achieve success. There are two kinds of achievers out there. The first does it for … Continue reading
What Lurks Beneath the Sanctimonius Disdain for Money (DE Wave)
I’ve always liked the saying, ‘If it were easy, everybody would be doing it.’ Sadly, the natural response to that is often, ‘Well, it must be nice to have” whatever you earned that they resent your having earned. A successful … Continue reading
Share your dollars with sense (Delaware Coast Press)
I speak to so many people — married couples, families, friends — who tell me they fight over money more than anything else. But after digging a little deeper, it becomes evident that the fighting is less about actual money … Continue reading