We’ve all seen people react badly or rudely when they’re told something they’d rather not hear. And it’s just as bad when you don’t say what they want to hear. The perfect example is an email I received from a … Continue reading
It’s interesting the reactions I get when I suggest to clients that one of our goals in therapy will be to help them think, i.e., to trust their senses, and integrate reality into abstract conclusions. Rational thought is necessary to … Continue reading
I get a surprising number of questions in my office about whether older widowed people should remarry. The obvious answer is, of course, yes – if they want to. But some widows and widowers feel it’s disloyal to their late … Continue reading
A reader sent me a comment about one of my recent columns where I suggested that the biggest mistake people make is to try and change others. She agrees that the choice of what to think and do will always … Continue reading
A Delaware Wave reader writes that she disagrees with some of her friends regarding politics. Because of her frustration over what they say and think, she has become disgusted and withdrawn. She says that if she disconnects herself from everyone … Continue reading
One of the subjects that almost always comes up in my office is how to make – or keep – a marriage happy. My first reaction is to remind them that they are on the same team; that they share … Continue reading
People sometimes ask me if anything annoys me about my job. I love what I do. But if anything gets to me, it’s when a client pays me good money for advice, and then doesn’t take it – returning again … Continue reading
People often make appointments with a therapist or life coach to “fine-tune” some aspect of their life. For example, a reader emails that he and his wife want to attend marriage counseling to help make things “as vibrant and healthy … Continue reading
As a mental health professional for over 37 years, one can’t help but notice patterns. Problems may take different forms, but the core issues often fall into just a few categories. Life doesn’t need to be as hard as some … Continue reading
People often ask me how they can find an effective therapist in their area. Of course this gives me a great opportunity to promote my book, “Bad Therapy, Good Therapy (And How to Tell the Difference).” Short of ending this … Continue reading
More and more people are doing business from home, and in my life coaching practice I’m hearing about the ups – and downs – of friends doing business together. Many people have asked me my thoughts on doing business with … Continue reading
People often ask me why I do what I do. I tell them that I never know what will happen from day to day in my office. Here’s an example: A reader emails that she and her husband are empty … Continue reading