A lot of the reason people underachieve — or even get depressed — is because of a false belief that there’s “something better.” Sometimes this false belief is in an afterlife. Only the most fervent believers can buy into this … Continue reading
People who are certain of nothing fail to appreciate the power of facts, reality and logic. People who are certain of everything likewise fail to appreciate the power of facts, reality and logic. Those who feel, “Who am I to … Continue reading
Don’t make pleasing others your goal. Make pleasing yourself the goal. The people who really matter will be pleased that you did.
Life isn’t about the elimination of fear or the eradication of sadness. It’s about the creation of value and purpose — about material and emotional fulfillment. If you eliminate fear without creating value — if that were even possible –you … Continue reading
Many people are cutting back on expenditures because of the current “economy.” In one sense, this is rational behavior, provided that the economic conditions are merely a reminder of what you should have been previously doing. But this isn’t the … Continue reading
The biggest problem with “self-medication” is when it takes on a life of its own. Let’s say you drink, to self-medicate over anxiety about aspects of your life. Instead of thinking and doing something about those problems, you simply continue … Continue reading
A fear of being alone isn’t the same as a natural preference to have friends, and connection. An irrational fear of being alone means you don’t like yourself. So long as you don’t like yourself, you won’t have satisfactory connection. … Continue reading
Just because somebody seems confident doesn’t mean he has something to offer. Don’t be impressed with another just because another is impressed with himself. Confidence is something that is usually quietly held. A person knows what he or she is … Continue reading
Is losing good for your health? You bet it is! It’s not that losing is a good thing. Rationally speaking, it’s clearly better to win than to lose. I don’t just mean this in the competitive sense. Life is less … Continue reading
No rational person would ever say: “I’m just so upset about the weather. I wanted it to be sunny today, and it’s raining. What can be done about this? Is it me? Am I doing something wrong? What advice can … Continue reading
A parent ought to encourage his or her child to (quoting an old Spanish proverb) ‘Take what you want—and pay for it.’ In other words, go after what you want in life, and make sure to be reality-oriented in the … Continue reading
Q: Dr. Hurd, I failed to be connected with my girlfriend in my last relationship. What do you think could cause this problem? I don’t suffer from depression, anxiety or low self-esteem. Why didn’t it work? A: By ‘connected’ I … Continue reading