There are two ways to be an achiever. One type of achiever is trying to impress others; the other is simply trying to achieve. The second type gets more done. Why? Because his focus is exclusively on getting the job … Continue reading
People write in and ask me: “How can it be liberating to identify your contradictions? It’s painful!” In all honesty, this is the same as asking: “Why is it better to face reality? I’d rather live outside of reality, because … Continue reading
My field is psychology, but I owe a debt of gratitude to the field of philosophy. My two favorite philosophers are Aristotle (from early Greece) and Ayn Rand (from the 20th Century.) These two philosophers taught me that the underlying … Continue reading
Two unfortunate, and undesirable, qualities in many human’s natures are: arrogance and naivet Let’s get this straight: Arrogance is not self-confidence. Arrogance is a form of pseudo-confidence. It comes from belief in one’s mind — not as a reasoning, thinking … Continue reading
Most people understand that what you do to your body will have consequences, over time. If you smoke cigarettes every day, it will harm your health and you will eventually get an illness. If you eat an imbalanced or improper … Continue reading
People like to feel visible in their relationships. What does “visible” mean? It means walking the talk. It means acting on the premise that you love the person, since you have said that you do. It’s the opposite of that … Continue reading
There are two major problems related to human psychological functioning. One is the realm of ideas; the other is the realm of action. The realm of ideas refers to thoughts, beliefs, attitudes and core premises. Some of these ideas are … Continue reading
Q: While I share your wisdom and identification of ideas as the cause of emotions and actions, I disagree on the subject of medicine/drugs as a tool for correction of negative thoughts or actions. I think anxiety and antidepressants can … Continue reading
People ask: ‘Cognitive therapy is all well and good. I’m fine with finding the nature of errors in my thinking. But what about the underlying causes of my problems?’ The error in this question proves exactly why cognitive therapy is … Continue reading
Dishonesty is widely considered “selfish.” The implication is that lying serves the self-interest of the person who’s deceiving. But does it? The moment somebody lies to a significant other in business or personal life, the obligation is on him to … Continue reading
What is a “perfectionist?” A perfectionist is someone with mistaken thinking. Perfectionism doesn’t refer to a quest for excellence, or a demand (placed on self or others) to get the best job done possible. Perfectionism refers to a neurotic fear, … Continue reading
Many ask: What’s the point of being positive if the world, including even the once great United States, is going to hell in a handbasket? My reply: If you give up in defeatism, there’s nothing left worth saving. If everyone … Continue reading