Step Thirteen: Wrote my psychological declaration of independence. I no longer needed to rely on my feelings or others to make my decisions for me. Came to realize that my own mind, with its capacity to think and reason, was … Continue reading
Daniel Duffy served in Iraq from November 2006 to April 2007. He was part of the “surge” strategy President George W. Bush ordered to quell the insurgency. His basic mission was to help keep insurgents from getting a stronghold in … Continue reading
What is “shaming”? Do you engage in it? Is shaming done to you? How much power should shame and blame have? Shaming refers to the use of moral intimidation (name calling, humiliation) in place of facts, reason or logic when … Continue reading
What psychological purpose, if any, does belief in the supernatural serve? Clay Routledge Ph.D., researcher on the subject and author of “More Than Mortal” thinks it’s about meaning in life: My research lab studies how religious beliefs contribute to perceptions … Continue reading
We’ve all heard the phrase, “blaming the victim.” Normally, this expression applies when one party blames another — the actual victim — for something he or she did not cause. Things have become so backwards and upside down in our … Continue reading
Serenity now … Serenity how? When you experience an emotion, identify the emotion (to yourself). “I feel [insert emotion here].” But don’t blame the cause of the emotion on some person, situation or thing. In other words: Do not say, … Continue reading
Interesting fact: The head of the student counseling department at Boston College recently sent the following email to his faculty: “I have done a considerable amount of reading and research in recent months on the topic of resilience in college … Continue reading
Sometimes, when we feel upset about another person’s actions, we’re taking something personal that probably is not personal. A cardinal theme in cognitive therapy (what I do daily with people) is helping them challenge the idea that something is meant … Continue reading
“A message of hope.” I read this in headlines about the Pope’s recent visit. It made me think: How valuable is hope, really? I know that the absence of hope is a terrible thing. People become unhappy, full of despair … Continue reading
Professor of psychology and author Richard Wiseman: Unlucky people tend to be creatures of routine. They tend to take the same route to and from work and talk to the same types of people at parties. In contrast, many lucky … Continue reading
A colleague of mine who ran an outpatient substance abuse program once said to me, “Shame is the root of all these addiction problems. Scratch the surface, and you’ll find shame. And the problems created by the substance abuse just … Continue reading
Japan has one of the highest rates of suicide in the world, and it is the leading cause of death among those aged 15-39. More Japanese school pupils commit suicide on September 1 each year than on any other date, … Continue reading