People often tell me that when they try to make suggestions to friends and loved ones, their well-meaning intentions are often rewarded with unpleasantness and heated discussions. Indeed, it’s virtually impossible to get a point across to anyone who feels … Continue reading
A loyal reader writes, “I’m the primary caretaker for my aging mother who is suffering from advanced Alzheimer’s. Unlike death, where you grieve and then in time return to your daily routine, dealing with my mother is like being stuck … Continue reading
A website fan sent me an interesting email. During a routine visit, he asked his family doctor what she would do if she suddenly had millions of dollars. Would she still work? Would she stop working? The doctor said she … Continue reading
According to research reported by theguardian.com, loneliness can have dramatic consequences on one’s health. Feeling isolated from others can disrupt sleep, raise blood pressure, lower immunity, increase depression, lower subjective well-being and increase the stress hormone cortisol (at sustained high … Continue reading
A reader sent me a comment about one of my recent columns where I suggested that the biggest mistake people make is to try to change others. She agrees that the choice of what to think and do will always … Continue reading
During counseling sessions, people sometimes say that they expected me to yell at them. Do I look THAT mean in the picture on this page? I wonder what would give rise to such an expectation, other than the proliferation of … Continue reading
We all know somebody who says, “He pushes my buttons.” Or “She knows how to manipulate me.” But what do these complaints actually mean? Steven Stosny, Ph.D. at psychologytoday.com [8-14-15] states that “Emotions move us.” Indeed, the Latin root of … Continue reading
Do you sometimes feel anxious or uneasy? A persistent feeling of anxiety can sometimes stem from mental conflict brought about by trying to resolve two or more contradictory ideas. You might not even be aware of the cause, but if … Continue reading
The long-awaited fall season is upon us! Locals (and smart vacationers) know that this is the time to enjoy everything we came here to enjoy. Whether you are a resident or just visiting, you probably came here because of a … Continue reading
I often encounter couples who, even after many years of marriage, maintain separate finances and bank accounts. What makes certain couples reach the decision to handle money in this way? It all depends on the individuals involved. Some people like … Continue reading
The subject of spanking children is a perpetually unresolved debate that stirs up a lot of emotion, but not a lot of reasoning. From a purely psychological point of view, however, there is compelling evidence as to why physical punishment … Continue reading
Stress reduction isn’t necessarily about doing less. In fact, many people become depressed or anxious simply because they don’t have enough to do. Ask anyone trying to adjust to retirement! It really boils down to what you do with what … Continue reading