The summer is over, and those of us who live here get to enjoy the change of the seasons once again. For many, this brings a bit of soul-searching and an objective look at where your decisions have brought you … Continue reading
Category: Life’s a Beach!
Why Shy People Are Shy (DE Wave)
No longer is the Cape Region a ghost town after Labor Day. We still get our share of crowds, especially on weekends. For some people, however, the thought of walking onto a crowded boardwalk or into a busy restaurant makes … Continue reading
Self-Control, Self-Respect and Managing Emotions (DE Coast Press)
Road Rage is one of the latest “diseases” to be foisted upon us by the mental health profession. To make it even more official, they’ve even named it: Intermittent Explosive Disorder. (IED for short. We love our acronyms.) According to … Continue reading
Life Without Risk Is Not Life (DE Wave)
We’re always fascinated by people who make it their business to jump out of airplanes, drive in car races or risk thousands in the stock market. Why is risk a way of life for some, and for others life is … Continue reading
Ten Keys to Reasonable Communication (DE Coast Press)
People often tell me that when they try to make suggestions to friends and loved ones, their well-meaning intentions are often rewarded with unpleasantness and heated discussions. Indeed, it’s virtually impossible to get a point across to anyone who feels … Continue reading
“I’m Resentful…But I Will Never Say Anything!” (DE Wave)
I encounter many people who admit to resentful feelings and anger toward friends and family members. Almost inevitably, these feelings end up stemming from a fear of confrontation. We’ve been so brainwashed into always being “nice” that emotions and bitterness … Continue reading
“If You Really Love Me…” (DE Coast Press)
Regular readers of this column know that I have written over and over that love should not be sacrifice. When you love someone, you want them to be happy. When someone loves you in a healthy way, you want them … Continue reading
Good Parenting = A Healthy Outlook (DE Wave)
It seems that no sooner did it start, that it’s finished – and back-to-school is just around the corner! In spite of the summer beach pleasures, many parents will face issues with their kids involving academics, focus and concentration. Will … Continue reading
When Romance Isn’t a Two-Way Street (DE Coast Press)
A reader asks if it’s possible to be just friends with somebody to whom you are attracted romantically, even if they don’t feel the same way. She goes on to ask if that can also apply to an ex-spouse or … Continue reading
Think Young, Age Gracefully! (DE Wave)
My childhood memories always include thoughts of my father. Right up until he passed away a few years ago, he was active and alert; cutting the grass weekly, keeping-up the house and expertly managing his computer. When clients ask me … Continue reading
Emotional Abuse in a Relationship (DE Coast Press)
I see many examples of spouses and partners who endure consistent and systematic meanness from their significant others. This pattern is more prevalent than you might think, and the clinical term for it is emotional abuse. There are a number … Continue reading
Does Your Relationship Make You Happy? (DE Wave)
It’s easy to lose perspective when you are experiencing doubts about your relationship. But sometimes a temporary setback or bad mood can be eradicated by taking a step back from the day-to-day and asking yourself one, basic question: “Does my … Continue reading