Eating Compulsively to Feel Good (DE Coast Press)

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I recently came across a fascinating case involving a friend who has been very overweight for years. Though the typical reaction is that she overeats because she loves the taste, this doesn’t apply to her. Several months ago she contracted a bad sinus infection that left her without a sense of smell. Most everybody knows that the sense of smell is responsible for our ability to taste flavors other than the basic sweet, sour, salty and bitter.

Interestingly, my friend continues to eat like she did before — even though she can’t taste the food. She admits that she still loves her favorite snacks and goodies as much as before, and she’s at a loss to explain it. Could it be that the habit of putting food in the mouth is more intense than the pleasure of the taste?

People addicted to drugs, alcohol, shopping and the like report similar feelings. They often say to me, “I don’t even enjoy the habit any more. But I keep doing it anyway.” Perhaps the mindless repetition creates a kind of calm – or at least a stability of sorts. Compulsions usually start out as a way to soothe anxiety. Life can be a pretty stressful place and human beings have always looked for ways to cope. Some methods work better than others, and eating is a classic example. After all, eating is universal. You must eat in order to survive. Some take this further and make eating or cooking an enjoyable hobby. Still others chow down incessantly to stop the pain or boredom that everyday life can bring.

Compulsive eating expert Geneen Roth describes the notion of “emotional eating.” She characterizes her own destructive eating as a “valiant though misguided attempt at being fully alive….” Like millions of others, Roth substituted food for self-esteem and love of life. A healthy person tries to pursue life in a cheerful and productive way. But for whatever reasons, some people don’t operate that way. The resulting unhappiness must express itself somehow. One way might be by going through a jumbo bag of potato chips or a box of Pecan Sandies.

The problem here isn’t the overeating itself. The compulsive behavior reinforces the very self-loathing that gave rise to that behavior in the first place. Self-loathing is probably the number one cause of compulsive eating. And the more you eat, the more you have “reason” to hate yourself. Talk about a vicious cycle!

Solutions are not easy, but you CAN beat a compulsion if you first understand the nature of the vicious cycle you’re in. A classic mistake people make is to use weight loss as a way to achieve self-esteem. “If I lose weight, then I’ll feel better about myself and about life.” The healthier way to approach it is to lose weight because you ALREADY love your life. “My weight is getting in the way of the happiness I deserve.” That may smack of self-help psychobabble, but the logic is undeniable: If you don’t first have the expectation of loving life and living it fully, then why bother to lose weight in the first place?

When people begin to lose hope, they tend to go through the motions; creating their own personal jail cells. If you find yourself going through the motions of eating (or any other compulsive behavior) without even gaining pleasure from it, that’s a sure sign of a compulsion. In these cases the issue isn’t the overeating; it’s that you’re not yet convinced you deserve the benefits of a healthier lifestyle.

To borrow Geneen Roth’s analogy, don’t settle for being a caterpillar when you could be a butterfly. Don’t just go through the motions, chewing and munching through your potential and your future. Set a course for whatever goal you consider worthwhile and enjoyable. Stop blaming yourself. You’re the single best ally you’ll ever have. If you shed the faulty and hopeless thinking, the weight will surely follow.

 

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