Couples, families and friends tell me that they fight over money more than anything else. But when I look closer, it becomes evident that the fighting is less about actual money and more about personal expectations and priorities. If differences … Continue reading
The New Year can be an opportunity to organize your schedule and prioritize your goals. But some get tripped up by making their schedules too inflexible. An organized schedule reflects an organized mind, but if you want to improve your … Continue reading
The New Year brings all sorts of resolutions and promises, and one of the most popular is to get things clean and in order. People often ask me if it’s obsessive or neurotic to enjoy cleaning, and I have good … Continue reading
That New Year’s spirit is in the air! Are you all stocked up with black-eyed peas and turnip greens? Each portion is supposed to bring financial luck in the coming year. The proof for all this apparently lies in the … Continue reading
Ahhh, yes, the sound of New Year’s resolutions echoing amongst the egg nog and discarded stick-on bows! I recently received an email from a reader who wants to moderate her drinking, smoking, eating, etc. Her husbands is all for it, … Continue reading
A teenager emails that his parents treat him more harshly than they treat his older brother. They are not abusive, but they consistently hold him to a stricter standard. His brother gets Cs and they don’t say anything. But when … Continue reading
People often make appointments with a therapist/counselor/life coach to “fine-tune” some aspect of their life. For example, a reader emails that he and his wife want to attend marriage counseling to help make things “as vibrant and healthy as possible.” … Continue reading
A website reader writes that her father died almost 20 years ago. She considers herself fully recovered, but when something reminds her of him, the feelings come rushing back. She asks me if she needs medication to keep her from … Continue reading
One of the most common themes I encounter when talking to people centers around relationships. Couples often tell me that they don’t feel “connected,” or that their relationship failed because they were not “connected.” When I ask them what they … Continue reading
A faithful follower of this column writes, “I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m a compulsive talker. My crazy need to say something or answer someone (even when no answer is required) often gets me into trouble. When I talk … Continue reading
A reader writes that her best friend is unhappy in her marriage. “It really pains me to see her this way. I think she’s looking for someone to tell her to leave him. Is it my place to do this? … Continue reading
People sometimes tell me how concerned they are that they — or their children — not be “losers.” They’re almost always surprised when I tell them that losing can actually be good for your mental health. In a competitive sense, … Continue reading