Stress reduction is not necessarily about doing less in your life. In fact, many people become depressed or anxious simply because they don’t have enough to do. (Just ask anyone having a hard time adjusting to retirement!) It really boils … Continue reading
Category: Life’s a Beach!
Mistaken assumptions can make a breakup even more painful
Celebrated songwriter Neil Sedaka wasn’t far from the truth when he co-wrote the hit song ‘Breaking Up is Hard to Do.’ The emotional impact of a breakup can be devastating, with feelings ranging from bewilderment to shock, from hurt to … Continue reading
The Virginia Tech massacre: Some criminal minds are beyond help
A visitor to my web site wrote and asked me why I considered the killer in last month’s Virginia Tech shooting spree to be ‘incapable of benefiting’ from psychotherapeutic help. She was surprised that I, as a therapist, would not … Continue reading
Respect is the key to being a first-class neighbor
One of the highlights of my weekly routine is the quiet morning where I get to sit down with a cup of coffee and confront my glowing—yet still blank—computer screen. As it stares back at me, I know what it … Continue reading
Psychological labeling can do more harm than good
Last week, a friend told me about an experience she had at a local fast-food eatery. While standing in line, she was engaged in conversation with an elderly friend who was seated. Their voices were somewhat raised due to the … Continue reading
It’s true: The best revenge is living well
A Wave reader in South Bethany writes, Dear Dr. Hurd, I’ve always been told that it’s wrong, bad and emotionally harmful to hate. But, as I read the news and watch the goings-on in this world, it’s getting harder … Continue reading
A kid’s allowance can be effective training for later life
We hear over and over that ‘money is the root of all evil,’ or that ‘money can’t buy happiness.’ Yet, at the same time, money is a major part of our lives. Couples fight over money—in fact, I have read … Continue reading
Are you–or somebody you love–overly sensitive?
One of the complaints I often hear from people is that their spouses, family members or close friends accuse them of being ‘too sensitive.’ Though it is, admittedly, annoying to hear that from a loved one, is it possible, in … Continue reading
Sometimes you’re the windshield; sometimes you’re the bug
‘You can’t do that! It’s not fair!’ ‘I never get a ‘fair shake!” How many times have we heard (and maybe even said) these things? When one is especially frustrated about the timing of events, or the pile-up of numerous … Continue reading
Take back control of your life! Try turning off your cell phone
This article originally appeared in The Wave on September 28, 2005, and is being reprinted in response to your many kind requests. Cell phones, cell phones, cell phones! On the beach, the boardwalk, the highway, in the grocery store, … Continue reading
Is “unconditional love” really what you want?
Your emails and calls are always appreciated—and they remind me that there are people out there reading this column! That fact becomes even more evident when the occasional piece gets people a little stirred up—and apparently my article a few … Continue reading
Defend your personal space–even at the beach!
I have to admit that I’m a private person. Though I enjoy and welcome the opportunity to interact personally with so many people, I also like to seek out some quiet and a bit of solitude when the day … Continue reading