Memory and emotions often work hand-in-hand. Though a person might appear to only remember what he ‘wants to remember,” it doesn’t necessarily mean that he’s deliberately choosing to forget. That would just be lying. But sometimes a person will only … Continue reading →

‘You are what you do.’ Really? Isn’t there more to life than just our jobs? For many people, the problem isn’t how much they work, but how they define themselves in relation to their work. If you ‘are what you … Continue reading →

When facing an important life decision about relationships and other personal issues, it’s often best to consider your own advice first. After all, YOU spend all of your time with yourself, so who’s better suited to know what’s right when … Continue reading →

Of all the subjects people talk about in my office, one of the most common is issues with (and questions about) relationships. Boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands, wives and otherwise partnered couples sometimes tell me that they don’t feel ‘connected,’ or that … Continue reading →

People often tell me that they feel like they’re never going to get ‘caught up.’ They’re always worrying about how (and when) they’re going to achieve all the goals they’ve set for themselves. First of all, “catching up” is a … Continue reading →

Dear Dr. Hurd,My father died almost 18 years ago. Though I consider myself fully ‘recovered,’ occasionally something will remind me of him. When I start thinking about it, the feelings of loss come rushing back almost as strong as they … Continue reading →

We all know at least one person who complains about pretty much everything. He or she has nothing good to say about anyone, and (gleefully) zeros in on other people’s weaknesses — real or exaggerated. You have to wonder why … Continue reading →

Each of us probably knows at least one person who deals with relationships and responsibilities in an ‘indirectly direct’ way; failing to get things done — but always ready with an excuse. This type of personality is referred to as … Continue reading →

People often ask me if there is one primary rule for communication in a successful relationship. Well, speaking from my professional experience, I would say that the most overlooked area of communication is: Listening. People often assume that listening is … Continue reading →

A reader emails that she’s resentful and unhappy over other people’s success. Rich people, TV stars, neighbors who are thriving in business ‘ she feels they all are bringing her down with their accomplishments. Well, dear Reader, ‘imitation is the … Continue reading →

I have an acquaintance who is an entrepreneur; owning businesses and employing people his entire life. In order to fill his spare time in his retirement, he recently took a job working in a small specialty store. Money was not … Continue reading →

Few things are more annoying than being nagged (except perhaps being accused of it). Nagging comes from anxiety, based on the false belief that repetition creates motivation. But it never does. In fact, it lowers respect for the one who … Continue reading →