A reader kindly emailed that she liked my recent article where I answered a question about pity actually being contempt. She makes it a little more personal by asking if self-pity is also self-contempt. Affirmative again. It follows logically that … Continue reading →

Dear Dr. Hurd, I am a straight male who is attracted to a woman who is bisexual. She is also attracted to me. I want a committed, monogamous relationship, but am uneasy about making such a commitment with her because … Continue reading →

A website visitor writes, ‘I have a friend who projects her own shortcomings and personality faults onto others; holding them accountable for those actions or inactions. For example, she’s always late, yet she expresses anger when others are late. Why … Continue reading →

I have a friend who loves to proclaim, ‘Suffering strengthens character’ whenever anything goes wrong — especially if he caused it. I admit it’s kind of funny (if not a bit annoying), but I totally disagree with the idea. It’s … Continue reading →

Are you a snob? Do you know one? Obviously the word is not very complimentary. In order to know exactly what it means, we first have to explore why people achieve success. There are two kinds of achievers out there. … Continue reading →

There was a recent crime in Rehoboth Beach where Chris Johnson, a reporter from Washington DC, was attacked — on his birthday, no less. Three or four men ganged up on him, struck him repeatedly and stole his outdated iPhone. … Continue reading →

There are so many situations where people ask me ‘How much is too much?’ In other words, at what point does something become an addiction? If a person consumes X number of drinks (or cigarettes, or slices of bacon, or … Continue reading →

A reader emails that she has successfully reduced her cigarette intake from 22 to only 6 a day. Now she’s stuck, and asks for advice on how to end the habit altogether. Well, dear reader, your mistake was setting a … Continue reading →

After doing what I do for almost 23 years, one can’t help but notice patterns. A problem may take different forms, but the core issues often fall into pretty specific categories. I thought it might be interesting to make a … Continue reading →

A reader emails that he and his wife want to attend marriage counseling — not for any specific reason, but just to make things ‘as vibrant and healthy as possible.’ (People often make appointments to simply ‘fine-tune’ some aspect of … Continue reading →

Since I moved here to the beach, so many people have proudly told me, ‘Things are so peaceful around here; we don’t even lock our doors!’ I don’t understand why it seems to be a matter of pride to not … Continue reading →

Just when I think nobody’s paying attention, my email box fills up responses to this column! In what was apparently a delayed reaction to an article from a few weeks ago, many of you asked if the emotion of pity … Continue reading →