It’s hard to make it through a day without hearing about “entitlement” – especially in a negative context. To be entitled simply means that one believes that he or she deserves something. A sense of entitlement can be valid, i.e., … Continue reading
A “Life’s a Beach” reader asked me the difference between an “irrational” (her words) avoidance of people versus true and healthy solitude. To figure out what’s irrational, you have to back up and define what kinds of interactions with other … Continue reading
We’ve all heard the phrase, “blaming the victim.” Normally, this expression applies when the actual victim of a crime is blamed for something he or she did not cause. Things have become so backwards in our crazy culture that we … Continue reading
Over the years, I’ve seen many relationships that are not everything they could be. Marriages routinely end in chronic dissatisfaction and divorce. More and more I see people treating one another poorly. I suspect that one reason for this mistaken … Continue reading
It’s a rare couple I see that doesn’t end up interrupting one another when things get emotional in a session. Indeed, it’s no secret that being interrupted can be very annoying. Is it just rudeness? Or is it something more? … Continue reading
People talk about the importance of humility. For example, reformed alcoholics or drug addicts will say, “Until I learned humility, I could not become sober.” They’re certainly on to something profound and important here, but is it really humility that … Continue reading
Living at the beach is one of the best things in my life, though it’s no secret that the probability of rough weather tends to increase when you live adjacent to an ocean. Given the unique coastal geography of our … Continue reading
I often encounter people who are clearly at war with food. They announce proudly, “I don’t eat pizza”, or “I would never eat fried chicken”, or “No way — no dessert for me … not ever!” Of course, each to … Continue reading
I recently posted a Peanuts cartoon on Facebook that said: “Worrying won’t stop the bad stuff from happening … it just stops you from enjoying the good.” The comments I received were even more interesting, and most boiled down to, … Continue reading
In an article on children, philosopher Stephen Hicks makes an interesting case against homework for school-aged kids. “Everyone says that they want children to grow up able to live independent lives and pursue their chosen careers passionately. But that aspiration … Continue reading
Now, more than ever, people are fighting over politics. But fighting within families and among friends is not new. Susan Heitler, Ph.D., writes in Psychology Today: “The impulse to convince others of the rightness of your view and the wrongness … Continue reading
There seems to be a lot of blame and shame flying around nowadays. But blame and shame are not healthy or effective motivators. People sometimes try to motivate you with shaming and blaming, and sadly, these methods are such a … Continue reading